By Dr. George Karanastasis
It’s quite common for an ex girlfriend to want to be friends after a breakup. And while it might seem like a good idea, that’s not always the case.
Sure, it’s a way to stay in touch. And yes, that’s what you need to do if you’re ever going to get her back. However… going from a relationship to a pure friendship can have the exact opposite effect. Instead of getting back together, you might end up losing her for good.
So what should you do if your ex asks to remain friends? Well, that depends on the timing of the request. Here’s what I mean by that…
If you’ve recently broken up (i.e. within the past couple of days or even weeks) then it’s not the best idea. Why? Because you’ll be giving her the best of both worlds. She’ll have you to help her deal with the pain of this breakup… and at the same time… she’ll be single and available to date someone else. In short, you’ll only be making her transition from you to another guy as painless as possible.
Is that what you want? Didn’t think so. She made her decision to split up so let her live with it. You have to be a little selfish in this respect. After all, who’s going to be there to help you deal with the pain?
Now, if she wants to be friends long after you’ve broken up… then it’s a different story. This is actually a great way to see if there’s still something between the two of you and if you can make things work. The initial shock of the breakup will have faded away and you’ll (both) be thinking clearer on how to move forward.
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