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Why Sex With The Ex Is Bad News During A Breakup
By Dr. George Karanastasis | March 13, 2008
Having sex is oftentimes compared to having pizza: even when it’s bad… it’s good.
And while this holds true as far as physical feelings are concerned, when it comes to its emotional aftermath (especially during a breakup) it’s a different story altogether.
You see, jumping into bed with your ex girlfriend can be a bad idea if you’re trying to rekindle the relationship with her. In many cases it can destroy much of the progress you’ve made towards “sealing the deal” and getting back together.
And here’s why…
Sexual tension, or to be blunt, hormones tend to bring about emotions that might not necessarily be true. For example, she might feel an overwhelming sense of “closeness” to you before and during the act… but when her physical needs are met those feelings could quickly becomes ones of guilt and remorse.
At the same time, you might confuse this event as the start of something new… something bigger and better between you. But if she happens to feel down once it’s all said and done… you might be met with a healthy dose of rejection and even more heartache.
Now, this isn’t necessarily the case for all relationships as every situation is unique. Your best judgment is required (that is, if you are even able to apply logic in the heat of the moment).
But at then end of the day, here’s a good rule of thumb of how to treat this occasion if it happens to arise:
If all you’re interested in is a good experience - then by all means -go through with it… but if you have bigger plans for the both of you (i.e. to get back together) - then perhaps it’s best to keep it in your pants and save the fireworks for when the timing is right…
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