By Dr. George Karanastasis
You know the type. They hear “Jump!” and respond with “How high?” Now, there’s no such thing as equality in a relationship. Someone always has the upper hand. But that doesn’t mean you should allow the scale to tip too far in her favor. Why?
Because when it does, you’re whipped. And that’s a bad spot to be in (more on this later). Now, if the description in this post is starting to sound a lot like you… keep reading! It will mean a world of difference when it comes to making your relationship last.
So why do men allow themselves to get this way? Two words: comfort and complacency. That’s all it comes down to.
They get too comfortable once the relationship has “aged” (i.e. when it has gone from the Honeymoon to the Reality stage). “Sure, she’s a little bossy and irrational at times, but that’s my girl and she loves me,” right? Wrong! She might love you (although that’s debatable) but she certainly doesn’t respect you. And one day this is going to come back to haunt you.
Next, there’s complacency. The dictionary defines this as: a feeling of contentment or self-satisfaction, especially when coupled with an unawareness of danger, trouble, or controversy (emphasis mine). What do you think “danger” means in regards to a relationship? A high probability of losing her. And when that happens, it won’t be pretty.
So what’s the solution? How can you gain back some of that power you seem to have lost? It starts with awareness. Knowing you have a problem is the first step to solving it (pardon the cliché). Next is self-respect. You have to have it to receive it.
Don’t let anymore treat you like a doormat, whether it’s your partner or anybody else. Make it clear that you won’t stand for anything less than equality. Better yet - put your foot down and demand a little more. Once you do, you’ll experience a big change in the way you’re treated - by your partner and everybody else.
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