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How To Win Her Back - One Thing She Never Wants You To Say
By Dr. George Karanastasis | January 6, 2008
If you’ve recently broken up with a girl and have tried to win her back then it’s safe to assume you’ve experienced your fair share of rejection.
Furthermore, I can bet with complete certainty that whatever you’ve attempted so far has failed to change her mind about getting back together.
You wouldn’t be reading this otherwise, right? You want to know how to win her back. Well that’s exactly what this post will teach you. However, instead of sugarcoating your situation, I’m going to give it to you straight.
The reason you can’t break through to her is because you’re taking the wrong approach. Most likely you’ve tried begging and pleading your way back into her heart. Unfortunately, that’s not going to cut it. All you’re doing is decreasing your chances of a future reunion.
And do you know why? Because women despise desperate, needy men. However, in spite of this fact they welcome all the attention they can get - from you or any other guy.
Now here’s some food for thought: what if you stopped showering her with attention from one day to the next? What do you think would happen then?
Before I reveal the answer to you I want to tell you a little story.
About a week ago one of the members of the Makeup Board had a conversation with his ex girlfriend. She called to see how he was doing. He told her he was fine. Naturally you’d expect her to be happy about this but to his amazement she was shocked… shocked to discover that he was OK with the breakup.
But wait a minute missy? Aren’t you the one who broke up with him in the first place? Why then does this news come as such a surprise?
Regardless, he got to witness firsthand what I’ve known for years: the moment your ex realizes that you could care less about the relationship the tables start to turn - she’ll start coming towards you in hopes of a resolution. And while this is not the be-all, end-all of relationship repair, it’s a huge step in the right direction.
And it’s easy to see why when you take the following fact into consideration: everyone wants to be desired whether the feeling is mutual or not. So even though your ex might be rejecting you, she still wants you to want her. It helps her to get over you and move on altogether.
Now, how can you use this fact to your advantage? The answer: go with the tide - not against it. The next time you come in contact with your ex girlfriend tell her that you’re doing just fine.
However, before you proceed with this approach I want to leave you with these two important tips:
- Don’t say it if you don’t mean it - she’ll see right through you and it will backfire
- Don’t contact her to give her the news of how great you’re doing without her - let her come to you first
Finally, if you need more help with this counter-intuitive yet dramatically effective approach, have a look through my free report on how to win her back that breaks this process down even further.
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March 10th, 2008 at 10:36 am
so my girl offed me for some older guy! and they dont have much in common at all? i dont get it! yet im quite sure she wants to stay friends! i have recently ignored her texts and emails! and even the birthday card she sent me! i know i was always too available for her and realize that now! does me shutting her out now help or hurt my chances of being with her again? thanks hop
November 9th, 2008 at 4:19 am
Well I just got dumped and I try so hard not to call or text.one day iam fine the next iam not.I keep giving in on calling him, but he never answers. So my advice that am learning just let go and let her come.or els your gonna be hurt with dissapointment as I am as I wright this!
January 29th, 2009 at 5:54 am
Actually this is like pretty wrong. Hearing that a guy is totally okay with the break up isn’t gonna make her ‘want you again’. That only applies to girls who like having men for the sake of having a boyfriend/lover. If a girl is truly interested, she would be hurt that the guy was totally okay without her. Girls do need to be shown that you need them.
February 22nd, 2009 at 3:53 am
I had been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years now and caught here not even a week ago with another man. I am devastated and never expexted that from her as shoe really loved me & lived for me. I can say she is very special to me and I do love & care for her. Problem is during our relationship I never showed it in the way she wanted it to be shown and I never saw her as much as as she wanted too see me. I trusted here with friends and gave here plenty alone time… she told that I was not possessive which I am not to a certain extent and told me I dont care or love her the same way she does for me. Please can you advise me if you think I have a chance of getting her back? What steps should I take? Will I regret the decision of going back?
March 17th, 2009 at 10:31 am
my girlfriend and i just took a short break. she had lied to me and i got mad and decided we needed a break. we got back together and she still loves me but she said that it would be a while before she could be the same with me like she was. while i understand this it kills me inside because i never ment to hurt her. i want to know what i can do to speed this process up. a reply would be greatly appreciated. thank you
April 17th, 2009 at 9:16 pm
please email my myyspace.i had her and i did a speech to her.she liked it but then she went out with my best friend.now me and my best friend r enemys.one day i told him “she broke up with u” and he took it serious.i told my ex “hes cheating on u”.they both found out and i feel like a looser.i plane on telling her this…I am an idiot and I’m sorry because I did’nt think my actions through and such more.should i do this?
June 9th, 2009 at 9:58 am
I have been dating this girl for two and a half years i found out that she kissed some guy at a bar and i was totally mad so we had a fight and broke up, but than we got back together and tried to work things out slowly, and she left me within a week after because she said she wasn’t ready. I was able to forgive her eventhough everyone knew but she said she was not ready to face people and wasn’t happy and regrets that moment, but she syas she loves me but doesn’t feel anything, withing this week she said that she has never been so unsure of something in her life. so What do I do? I haven’t contacted her in any way what will happen in the mean time, and what do you think is the end result. thanks.
August 7th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
It was my fault i had an affair,we’ve been together 17 years.Iknow it was my fault but i’m devestated and i need her back so much.This woman is my world and being without her is killing me.Trouble is some of her friends and family i know are involved and telling her not to have me back,i can’t do nothing about this,help me please.
March 1st, 2010 at 4:17 am
well my ex-gf broke up with me after 1month 3weeks and 1day becuz her parents read some of her texts and did not like them and dissaprove of me… ive offered to talk to her parents but she says she doesnt know what i need to do and she just wants to be single. ive been told many things but idk what to beleive. she might just be playing a game with my head. i dont know what to beleive who to beleive or what to think plz help