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How To Win Her Back - One Thing She Never Wants You To Say
By Dr. George Karanastasis | January 6, 2008
If you’ve recently broken up with a girl and have tried to win her back then it’s safe to assume you’ve experienced your fair share of rejection.
Furthermore, I can bet with complete certainty that whatever you’ve attempted so far has failed to change her mind about getting back together.
You wouldn’t be reading this otherwise, right? You want to know how to win her back. Well that’s exactly what this post will teach you. However, instead of sugarcoating your situation, I’m going to give it to you straight.
The reason you can’t break through to her is because you’re taking the wrong approach. Most likely you’ve tried begging and pleading your way back into her heart. Unfortunately, that’s not going to cut it. All you’re doing is decreasing your chances of a future reunion.
And do you know why? Because women despise desperate, needy men. However, in spite of this fact they welcome all the attention they can get - from you or any other guy.
Now here’s some food for thought: what if you stopped showering her with attention from one day to the next? What do you think would happen then?
Before I reveal the answer to you I want to tell you a little story.
About a week ago one of the members of the Makeup Board had a conversation with his ex girlfriend. She called to see how he was doing. He told her he was fine. Naturally you’d expect her to be happy about this but to his amazement she was shocked… shocked to discover that he was OK with the breakup.
But wait a minute missy? Aren’t you the one who broke up with him in the first place? Why then does this news come as such a surprise?
Regardless, he got to witness firsthand what I’ve known for years: the moment your ex realizes that you could care less about the relationship the tables start to turn - she’ll start coming towards you in hopes of a resolution. And while this is not the be-all, end-all of relationship repair, it’s a huge step in the right direction.
And it’s easy to see why when you take the following fact into consideration: everyone wants to be desired whether the feeling is mutual or not. So even though your ex might be rejecting you, she still wants you to want her. It helps her to get over you and move on altogether.
Now, how can you use this fact to your advantage? The answer: go with the tide - not against it. The next time you come in contact with your ex girlfriend tell her that you’re doing just fine.
However, before you proceed with this approach I want to leave you with these two important tips:
- Don’t say it if you don’t mean it - she’ll see right through you and it will backfire
- Don’t contact her to give her the news of how great you’re doing without her - let her come to you first
Finally, if you need more help with this counter-intuitive yet dramatically effective approach, have a look through my free report on how to win her back that breaks this process down even further.
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March 10th, 2008 at 10:36 am
so my girl offed me for some older guy! and they dont have much in common at all? i dont get it! yet im quite sure she wants to stay friends! i have recently ignored her texts and emails! and even the birthday card she sent me! i know i was always too available for her and realize that now! does me shutting her out now help or hurt my chances of being with her again? thanks hop