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How to Win Her Back from Another Guy

By Dr. George Karanastasis

win her backJust because your ex is dating someone else, doesn’t mean that she’s gone for good.

In fact, if you play your cards right… not only can you get her back in your arms… you can make the relationship stronger than it ever was.

So in light of this… let’s go over how to win her back from another guy…

First, you must know and understand that she’s most likely in a rebound relationship that will eventually end. This is crucial. Why? So you don’t end up doing anything rash (e.g. professing your undying love to her in an attempt to get her back).

You see, winning a girl back from another guy is more of a “passive” process than anything else. It’s not so much about you do - but about what you don’t. And that’s what makes it so difficult. It’s tough to stand by while your woman is with someone else. Actually, it’s downright gut-wrenching. Nevertheless, if you can exercise a bit of self-control during this period… it will pay off in spades. Just get out of her hair and let the chips fall where they may.

Next, don’t give her “the best of both worlds”. In other words, don’t be her source of (much needed) emotional support during this breakup while the new guy is her source of lighthearted fun. She chose to be with someone else, so let her.

By making her realize that she can only have one of you, she’ll feel pressured to make a decision. And here’s the beauty of this… for this first time since your breakup, she’ll be the one worried about losing you. From there, it’s just a matter of making the right moves until she’s back in your arms.

Finally, never try to convince her that she should dump him and get back with you. She has to come to this conclusion on her own. Of course, you’ll be helping her along in your own way… just not directly (keep in mind…this has to be done with extreme tact; see page 96 in How to Get Her Back for Good for more info).

And while the “devil’s in the details”… if you follow these key pieces of advice, your chances of winning her back from another guy will increase exponentially. Good luck!

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6 Responses to “How to Win Her Back from Another Guy”

  1. ranjjo Says:
    February 18th, 2011 at 6:55 am

    I was wondering what if after breaking up after 4 yr relationship due to losing feelings, the ex girlfriend within 3 months gets with someone and been with them for some time now (6months) would that still be a rebound?
    Would it right to assume that the relationship for them is serious and not rebound?
    I been in NC and dropped off the face of the earth and she did try to contact me whilst being this guy but i didnt respond straight away as i still needed to be in NC and i eventually we spoke over the phone and kept it cool.
    When is it safe to assume a rebound is now a serious relationship?

  2. Christian Says:
    July 23rd, 2011 at 2:26 am

    Sounds like it is a relationship. That happened to me…but it was much sooner than 3 months later. Makes you feel like she didn’t care, since she seems to have moved on so fast. It sucks. Start dropping in randomly just saying hello and being friendly. Don’t bring up your relationship.

  3. Ben Says:
    August 10th, 2011 at 12:39 pm

    Progress? Well, we know each other five years now. 3.5 we dated. 1.5 apart. After we broke up… I had her move out… I did not contact her for a long time. Then did. She had moved away for a career. A bit later She started dating someone. (We had slept together after She met him… She had been out meeting others.). He moved away for Grad School. I had been in varying states of limited and no contact. That escalated at various times. Early on, I flew out to see her… She kissed me constantly. She flew home last month, we had a great time, physical things happened. After it escalated she wanted to not talk because she hadn’t broken up with the other guy. I said… I don’t want to talk until she breaks up. Then, I had a family trip to her area… Contacted her… She had been feeling fear of losing me… Guilt for what she was putting me through. We talked a bit… Then agreed to see each other for the few days we would be in CA at the same time. (interviews elsewhere for her.) We had sex first day… It was incredible. We spent time each day having a lot of fun out. And we had sex several other times. She loaned me her car as She left for her interview. I had told her that the reason I gave a limited window before was because people I was interested and now knew for a while were ready. She said she was making up her mind on who to marry and it was not a minor decision and she was not asking me to stay while she made it. So either I gave her her time, or moved on. I go back home. She has a job offer in Minessotta where the other guy is… But, just had a great interview in Northern Ca for a better job where she would rather be. No offer yet, but they did fly her up there. I feel like job offers and proximity effect the decisions because a top concern in her life is to get a job ASAP. After this intense period with sex… Sleeping over… Etc. And us going opposite directions… No decision yet. And after an intense night of discussion… And parting ways… She had me over the last night she was in town… And we had sex again. I do not know what to do from here. We had agreed to meet up to write a truce… I was wanting to move on… To just get out of the cycle… So wanted to agree certain things would be true… We would honor them… And move forwards into the unknown. We never did the truce. In a heated moment… She said maybe we should do the truce… But, moments later it had turned entirely. And after a night home alone… I was there for her last night in town. So… No truce… No closure… But, sex. Repeatedly… And the phone rang several times… I learned from her later she felt horrible because she had lied and told him she was out with friends… Etc. This is messy as heck. I’m trying to figure out my next move. My attitudes and confidence have been calibrated right. Not sure where to go from here. I feel I need to tell her I need a little emotional space to sort out what I want. But, not sure it is time for that again as the longer NC plan.

  4. Stadium Says:
    December 28th, 2011 at 7:14 am

    Hi I was reading and there are some pointers but I was in a relationship for like 2 years we loved and cared for her thru thick and thin but…..she was married and they were on the merge of divorcing and we were trying to make a good life we had a baby on the way and with jealosly problems and my anger issues it was on and off.we have a son together try to spend time witj him but in may we broke up because she was still married so no later than a month in a half later shes already with someone…ever since she was.with the new guy she changed I’ll try to contact her on the holidays and no contact,text her and she doesnt text back onl

  5. anonymous Says:
    February 17th, 2012 at 6:08 pm

    I was with my girlfriend for almost 3 years. She broke up with me for a few different reasons but told me that she still loves and will always love me. Its been 4 gut wrenching months since the break. I should be moving on, but havn’t because of the mixed signals she has given me. When she left me I didnt beg her back. I told her that I didnt want it, but that I understood. Within the first week I never contacted her, but she text me alot, about how hard it is, how she misses me, etc. I would respond that i missed her also, but still never begged her back. A girl i know posted something on facebook that was very flirtatious and my ex saw it, and was so upset she deleted her facebook account. She still didnt want me back but we still text back and forth. I decided to ignore her texts because being texting friends was to hard if she didnt want to get back with me. She started blowing up my phone two days later upset that i was ignoring her so i finally responded and asked her if she wanted to meet up. We met up and talked and i gave her a letter saying that I wanted her back, but respected whatever decision she gave me, but if it was to not get back, i didnt want to be friends because it was preventing me from moving on. We had no contact for a week, but then we both started texting back and forth for the next month or so. Her texts had been more frequent during the last three weeks. I decided to finally ask her out because of all the texts recently, and because i know for a fact that she still loves and misses me. She told me that it probably not be a good idea to meet up because shes kind of talking to another guy and out of respect she shouldnt. I told her i respect that and that i wish her well. She text back that what i said meant alot and that she would always love and care about me. I love this girl so much and would marry her if i could get her back. She obviously doesnt want me right now, but obviously cant let go. What would be the best thing for me to do? I know i cant sit around and wait for her and i am going to move on but i would love to get her back.

  6. jim Says:
    October 23rd, 2012 at 8:13 pm

    I have a problem i been with my girl for two and a half years we were engaged and jusy had a miscarage in the begining she left me and slept with her babies daddy twice then she came back and she was crying i forgave her she just turned 21 im 35 but look 24 any way we were living together for teo and a half years every time we went out we had fun but over time when we got into a fight she would ignore me all day or leave thrn come back and say this is were my heart wants to be do we fix things and it would be ok we she got mad at me got a little jealousy and controlling she told me over and over in notes she loves me and wantd to merry me and grow old with me and shes so lucky to have me well now shes been gone for 3 months got het own place and is seeing and fucking this guy i ment when we first started dating and she said i dont have to worry about him hes like a brother to me now shes taking it slow he stays over at her place every time i try to talk to her she says jim stop just move on i dont want this no more well i love her and want to merry her how can i get her back and do u think she eill come back

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