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How To Make Up With Your Girlfriend After A Fight

By Dr. George Karanastasis

How To Make Up With Your Girlfriend After A Fight

There you are… you’re having a peaceful moment with your girlfriend engaging in meaningless conversation about an equally senseless issue when it comes out of nowhere to blindside you both: a fight so nasty that, after several rounds
of back-and-forth bickering, sends the two of you to your respective corners… banged up and badly bruised.

At first, your ego stands tall fueled by the fury of the recent event. There’s no way in hell you’re taking that initial step toward a resolution, you think to yourself. But like all matters involving conflict, time lends its healing hand here as well and before you know it… you’re feeling calm yet overwhelmed with guilt.

You want to make up with her but you’re clueless as to how you should proceed. You’re embarrassed and at a loss for words because deep down you know that saying “sorry” just ain’t gonna cut it.

So, if you’re finding yourself in this all-too-common situation let me offer you a simple approach that, when followed, virtually guarantees a swift recovery and you’ll soon be chalking up this fight to nothing more than a faint memory of the past.

It all boils down to 3 steps, so here they are…

Step 1: Make Your Apology Count…

Do this by meeting her in person to say you’re sorry. But before you run off to see her, take some time to put a written apology on a card as well. You’ll be giving this to her when you get together, but only after you’ve verbally expressed your thoughts.

This order of events is crucial. Why? Because too many “men” hide behind their keyboards when it comes to saying sorry. They send off a half-baked email to their girlfriends in order to avoid the personal encounter. It takes guts to raise your hand and admit you’re wrong. She knows this and will not only appreciate the sincerity of your gesture, but she’ll take your willingness to make up that much more seriously.

Now, here’s where that well written apology card comes in…

Even if your girlfriend flat-out rejects your attempt to make up because she’s still fuming from the fight, she’ll have your words to read over somewhere down the road when in a better mood. This “two-pronged approach” ensures that she takes what you have to say to heart.

Step 2: Take All The Heat If You Must… At Least Initially

If you’re looking for a quick resolve with this girl then you have to approach her with tact and take on full blame for the fight. Forget about your ego and swallow your pride. Any logical arguments you might want to bring up as to why you’re not entirely to blame you’ll have to save for later. There’s a time and place for this but the initial meeting where you’ll be apologizing is not one of them.

But don’t worry… you’ll get the chance to put your word in soon enough. It won’t be long before she calms down and is receptive to hearing what you have to say in your defense. And when that moment comes, you can be sure that she’ll be agreeing with most of it. Because if you’ve done everything right up until now, she’ll be feeling the weight of her own guilt as well. But this won’t happen unless you bite the bullet first!

Step 3: Back Off And Let Her Make The Next Move…

Depending on the relationship and the seriousness of the fight this step might not be necessary. She might accept your apology from the get go and you can put this fight behind you. However, I’ve included it here to cover all possible ways this scenario can play itself out.

If your girlfriend doesn’t immediately make up with you after apologizing or even taking the full blame for the fight, your next move is to back off and let her know that you’ll wait for her to get in touch whenever she feels ready.

Under no circumstances should you push for a resolve. There’s nothing more counter-productive than trying to persuade an angry woman for a second chance… especially if she’s not ready to give it to you.

However, rest assured that, in time, she will forgive and forget. And if you’ve followed the instructions in here to the letter, she’ll also reward you in her own way for handling this fight in a mature fashion (let your imagination run wild with the latter ;)).

In conclusion, while this fight with your girlfriend may seem like the end of the world (with no possibility of coming to a resolution), rest assured that by taking a stepwise and calculated approach, this too will come to pass. And when it does, you’ll be happy to find yourself back where you started: enjoying the peaceful times with the girl you love.

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178 Responses to “How To Make Up With Your Girlfriend After A Fight”

  1. Joe Says:
    November 7th, 2008 at 12:13 am

    okay my girlfriend and i got into this big fight i gave this girl a ride home who we both dont like but i just flat out said yes then my girlfriend got mad then we got in a fight about it on the phone but i never called her back that night then i came to school the next day in pain becasue of my back and i never said a word to anyone in my class all day then i finally didnt show up for school the next day because i wasnt feeling well and i didnt call her till 7 to apologize and when i shold of handled it a better way so i am trying to figure it out but she says saying sorry and talking about it isnt enough i need to do more and be more romantic i mean i know waht to do i just have to get my check cashed in so i have to wait for a couple days and just talking i try but it seems like it doesnt help i offer to carry her books try to give her back rubs complement her nails her hair her personalty doesnt work what do i do!?!?!?

  2. james Says:
    November 20th, 2008 at 8:08 pm

    today my girlfriend’s birthday my car which it broken down this morning . so I told her I couldn”t come down cuz it is 60 miles away and she said u just make my birthday worst day in my life and I feel terrible and upset abt it!! now I don”t know if is there better thing to make up to her? any suggestion?

  3. juman Says:
    January 31st, 2009 at 8:16 pm

    my friend .. women are like … hot cakes .. they are easy to sell .. and women also bonse like pop corns on fire .. the mantra to success .is the album’phir befaai’ … take my advice my dear friend you’ll not regrett it.

  4. Sam Says:
    May 9th, 2009 at 1:45 pm

    The only advice that I have for any of you people out there that are looking for ways to help save your relationship. I still make mistakes, who doesn’t. The only thing you can do is THINK before you ACT. When you’re in love with someone… Always put them first before yourself! I screwed up worst then I ever have before but I’m hoping that she will eventually come through and know in heart that I love her and I only want and need her in my life. So just always keep in mind, put the woman first… She is worth the fight. Wait it out and have faith that she will have in her to forgive you.

  5. joey Says:
    May 16th, 2009 at 5:30 pm

    man i just got in a fight with my gf and now she is all mad. i had to get ready for work and she called me. i hate when she does that. and she got mad cuz i said i have to go. she said i said it rudely. then that just mad it worse she started telling me off and getting me pissed for ex. she says how do i know your going to work, go f your ex, ur just going to c ur gf and stuff like that. it got me pissed and she expects me to be nice and make it better. im like f#ck that. i hate the damn bi#ch but i guess i got to stay with the bi#ch she is my baby mama. but she makes me hate myself and feel like a girl and useless and a bi3ch like a dam slave i hate her

  6. ekombe Says:
    May 24th, 2009 at 12:25 pm

    i had a fight with my girl after argument
    she came into the house remove her picture
    then wanted to leave but i did not want to
    so we pick up a fight
    but one thing i forgot is that she was pregnant

  7. Sean Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 11:02 am

    WELL MY GIRLFRIEND TRIED TO GIVE ME A SURPRISE ANNIVERSARY PRESENT BUT I IGNORED HER BECAUSE I LEFT MINE AT HOME SO I DID NOT WANT TO ACCEPT IT SO SHE SENT ME A EMAIL SAYING SHE HATES ME NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN WHAT DO I DO.

  8. Moe Says:
    August 1st, 2009 at 9:31 pm

    my fionce was in a small car accident and nothing really bad happened, when the accident happened i was on the phone to her brother which happens to be in car with her when it happened. i asked if everything was ok and if she was alryt and he said to me yeah it nothing bad we’re alright. later that night my fionce was so close in breaking up with me because i wasnt there. i told her that her brother told me everything was alright then she made me feel so low. she was upset with me for almost 2months and every now and then she makes something small into something big, for example i finished work and tried calling her but no answer, so i went to my brothers house and ate there. after i get in contact with her and i told her i ate at my brothers house she starts saying i cnt beleive u wouldnt even wait to eat with me at my house i waited all day this and that and made me feel like shit AGAINN. PLEASE SOME ONE HELP ME??? WHAT DO I DO? IS MY RELATIONSHIP COMING TO AN END? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!

  9. annoymous Says:
    August 11th, 2009 at 10:44 pm

    here’s the thing.me and my gf fought two days back.and i really try to mend things by going her way and baring with all the pain.and i really hope things would be better in time and i really do hope so.it’s because she’s the one i live for and she mean the world to me.i rather to be alone than to love another.*sighs

  10. jr Says:
    August 17th, 2009 at 12:01 pm

    saturday night my girl and I drank alot we got into a argument, i remember i got off the car and started to walk, i dont remember anything all i remember was that she was crying alot, she finnaly took me home after she called my mother and tolld her what was going on. the bad part about it is that we are getting married soon… what do I do.. i have not talk to her since then shouuld i just drop it.. i have tried texting her she just said i dont want to talk?

  11. Moon Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 12:46 am

    Hey everyone!
    I’ve been through a ton of tough situations like that. I am a girl, so this will be a little womanly persepective.
    I suggest a ton of letters, for all of you. I know writing is hard, time consuming, and definitely tedious if you take it as a chore, but it is more romantic than a text message or a simple bought apology card, or any teddy bear.
    Meet up with your better halves! That’s what they are there for.
    It lets them know that you understand what they feel, and care for them.
    I know that when me and my boyfriend get into a fight, I try oh so hard to not let it bother me, and then I burst out on him. Its because that’s what I do best, hide my emotions. On the other hand, it is not his job to fix my emotions, but rather help me get through the pain of it all.
    Ice cream, chocolate, cut cards, love notes, romantic dinners (MADE BY YOU) and a ton of apologies and hugs, make things so so much better.
    Guys, be sincere in whatever it is you are doing.
    It will pay off!

    *Break a leg out there!! And keep on loving…

  12. Just another guy Says:
    October 5th, 2009 at 6:15 pm

    Guys…just stfu…and go cherish the one you love…every moment is precious.You just dont know ’till its gone…So,instead spending hours googling your lives…Go live them a bit…Ask for forgiveness…Take fault this time,and dont cast blame…There are exceptions,but if the true love is the matter,then,just go on! Live a full life!

  13. shoaib Says:
    October 10th, 2009 at 10:13 am

    Hi..my g.f is angry on me because i did a big mistake which i should not do it n i am really sorry for it but i dont have any idea to how to say sorry can one help me plz….. it is so painful feeling that ur love one is angry on you help me plz…..

  14. leestar Says:
    October 11th, 2009 at 9:24 am

    im in a long distance relation, i get to eperience fights missunderstandings every alternative day… somtimes it gets really worst cuz she likes to fight over things like facebook, even though she uses herslef meet her friends and all but she doesnt want me to do that she fights with me even wen im going to work even if i get late to call her som stupid litle things and she stops talking to me she gets really agresive use abusive words like swearing and all….

    i call her 1000 of times like mad she still puts the phonedown on my face and never talk to me she delets me from yahoo and stuff and wen i get i pissed off and burst out thats it!

    she jsu tells me to end this relation she dont wana be with me and how much she hates me and she dont wana be with me anymore even wen we r planing to get married.

    everytime i have to call her she never say sorry she never take initiative to break the ice everytime i have to call her and appologise for everythign and take the blame for everything even if its her fault then she will takefew days to be normal.

    in our 4 yrs reltiion she hasnt called once to make up our last brake up was for one year and still i called after one year.

    can someone help me is it one sided relation and waever she is doing is it normal? watever im doing is it right thing to do?

  15. Anthony Says:
    October 15th, 2009 at 11:47 am

    Basically i play rugby and last saturday i went back to the rugby club because someone told me a comedian was there and i will be good. so i went along. turnt out there was a comedian and also strippers. and who got stitched up with a stripper? me!

    me and two others were tied up and given lap dances and then the joke went too far and i was made to put a toy into the stripper. reluctantly i put the end in and said are you happy now? and left.

    Due to my concience i had to tell my girlfriend as i felt i had cheated on her. understanably she is not happy. but she dosnt want to talk to me at all. she hasnt ended it so im assuming she still wants me.

    But i trying to make it up to her but she wont let me and is saying she dosnt know if she can ever deal with it, not sure if i can make it up to her. is so blunt with me and i dont know what to do. i love her and i just want to make her happy.

    Please Please Pleease help me.

  16. bob Says:
    October 18th, 2009 at 5:40 pm

    me and my fiance have split just now, we had a great relationship at the first few months, then she lied to me over something quite silly ( fone call to a guy ) she told me she lied because she didnt want us to argue, but i couldnt drop it for months, and things went from bad to worse… but now we are seperated but i cant bare it, just want her back, she says she loves me but dont believe i will let the lie thing drop, i have no idea what to do to try make things up, iv already wrote a letter, foned her ( ignored ) and txt alot but only get negitive replys. am lost and have no clue how to get her back????

  17. Need Advice Says:
    October 24th, 2009 at 12:47 pm

    hi my name is carlos . my gf and i went to a dance. i didnt wanna dance cuz i had hurt my head and ma ass and then she started yelling at me. I called her the next day and she says i dont wanna talk to you so i just am pissed. What should i do.

  18. For Leestar Says:
    October 27th, 2009 at 4:51 pm

    leestar…I was in a long distant relationship similiar to yours, all the way down to the one year break up and talk of marriage. I suggest you discontinue the relationship asap. Break up with her in a respectful manner, but be concise and brief. Don’t become emotionally evolved and don’t allow her to suck you into an argument. Take sometime for yourself to heal. Most important part: Don’t wait to long to get back into the dating arena. This will help you avoid being a bitter person…good luck.

  19. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP I LOVE HER AND IDK WHAT TO DO Says:
    November 12th, 2009 at 10:26 pm

    me and my gf keep getting in fights cause i feel like she is hiding something like she pulls her fone back like she is texting someone she knows she shouldnt. but its also my fault cause i checked her fone one time got mad and i know it was wrong and i promised it will never happen again. but anytime i bring it up she gets mad and we have almost broken up for this. but i just want her to know how i feel about some things so i told her and now she is mad i just need to know how to make it up 100%

  20. dgrafix Says:
    December 8th, 2009 at 12:48 pm

    ok here’s mine: we just hooked up…been dating like 3 weeks or thereabout and then one day she said she just wanna b left alone…when asked her friend…best friend, the friend told me in confidence thats its because i dont trust her. I tried getting her to talk to me but she didnt for like 4 days…then i got mad and sent her horrible texts calling her a bitch and all…accusing her of f***ing other boys behind my back. She came to my house and we had a big fight..just shouting.

    Its been 5 days and i’m still trying to get her ack. I’ve sent tons of apology texts but no reply. Now am thinking of going to see her…IS IT WORTH IT???

  21. taylor Says:
    December 11th, 2009 at 4:16 pm

    my gf is mad at me for some reason i still dont kno why but we dont see each other all the time cus we go to different schools and after school she dances so i dont see her till the weekends and i was wondering if i were to wait till the weekend to see her in person if this would still work

  22. teebee Says:
    December 11th, 2009 at 9:08 pm

    to all the guys on here that are texting and not having any luck–let me tell you, if you’re not in a long distance relationship, take advantage of the fact that you can just show up at her doorstep and apologize in person. i know it seems stupid or irrelevant–but im telling you, if shes pissed, show up at her doorstep, bring her flowers, say you messed up and want to talk about it and itll pass…

  23. Tevin Says:
    December 12th, 2009 at 3:42 pm

    well i got in a fight with my girlfriend and idk how to tell her sorry i tried explaining the situation but she got pissed and strted to yell so i yelled now what do i do

  24. Mo Says:
    December 16th, 2009 at 10:22 am

    Wow. Guys, the stories I’m reading in the comments are wild. The best blanket advice I can give you that applies to everyone is to realize that you are who you are and will remain who you are throughout. For those of you with girlfriends that get angry enough to say they hate you/want to break up with you/etc because you can’t make it to their birthday or can’t talk to them while you’re getting ready for work, you are definitely doing something wrong. Don’t harbor that kind of behavior at any level. For them to feel that they can react so harshly to such a small issue means they are getting away with over reacting in a lot of instances of the relationship.

  25. bobby Says:
    December 31st, 2009 at 6:47 pm

    a lot of the women described above sound like insecure nutcases. My advice is to leave those lunatics to find a guy who is not a doormat who will one day wake them up (or alternatively equate with them in lunacy).
    in addition you guys that keep taking, absorbing, allowing, tolerating etc stupid behaviour: realise it aint worth it. No woman is worth that much when she treats you like hell.
    oh and guys (you know who you are) that treat your woman bad, and are abusive, lunkheaded psychos? Well, guess what: you probably deserve one of the chicks I describe above or you need to be incarcerated.
    happy New Year. Fucking hell, people.

  26. tony Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 9:19 pm

    Guys,Guys, Guys,

    I have read a lot of the posts on here asking for advice over “giving a friend a ride home” “to car breaking down and ruining her birthday” to apologizing via text, or “getting upset and yelling” what should I do?

    Gentlemen,

    Men are human, guess what? So are women! I really cannot believe that so many men on this site are so insecure that they need advice because there girl is mad at them.

    My advice is simple, apologize, and they will either accept it, or reject it. If they don’t, the world will still go round and round. If a pissed off woman is the cause for the end of the world, then it would have happened a long time ago.

    Apologize, admit you are wrong, (only if you are) and see what happens. If she doesn’t except your apology, then obviously it isn’t you with the problem, it is her. Only a fool will stay with a woman miserably. Just like women view us, they should be expected to be viewed the same way. There are other fish in the sea.

    My name is Tony, and I have been happily married for 10 years because I don’t worry past apologizing. ONce you apologize if your woman loves you, then no matter how mad she is, the fight is over.

  27. lesley Says:
    January 10th, 2010 at 1:53 am

    Uuugh me and my bf been dating for almost a year and after 5months or so we started arguin abt the littlest stuff….idk wat it is but I just always get irritated very fast becuz he don’t seem 2 understand me…he always keep sayin am dominant,heartless e.t.c and den he want to wrap my arms around lik it was nothing…eventho I say mean thing but the tin is am just been real,but everytime we have a big argument I just wanna leave ….just turned 19 really new 2 dis long term relationship thing so am still learnin but dang its just too much stress…help!

  28. George Says:
    January 12th, 2010 at 10:19 am

    If the girl tells you to get lost, then get lost for a few days, or a couple weeks, without any contact. In the meantime, do not be too depressed and let her know of your being a downer. Go to a movie, listen to some music, party a bit with mutual friends, be happy. She will be wondering how you have been doing without her since she must have thought that you would be miserable without her around. When she finds out you are HAPPIER without her, she will be wanting to find out the mystery in you. Then, haha, you have won half of the battle. Don’t act cocky and tell her so. Be polite, keep good eye contact and when you sense that she is in an agreeable mood, ask her to have lunch with you or do some simple things together like watching a show you both like, etc. Before you know it, she will be hugging you, saying how much she misses you….

  29. solomon Says:
    January 20th, 2010 at 3:15 pm

    The brain does not have feelings but controls feelings. Love exists in the heart, and what makes it troubled comes from the mind; that is to say love on its own can’t be troubled unless a certain degree of harmful perception from the mind strikes it. Love requires its basic which is truth.If you think what you’ve done can take away love then know that you have just surrendered cos there is no way love will live if it has come, unless if it is abandoned for a very long time.By apologizing, you have to act like Sb who is looking for love.Read out meanings,try me and see. good luck.

  30. matthew pownall Says:
    January 23rd, 2010 at 10:32 pm

    on the weekend of 21st jan 2010 me and my girlfriend sophie winders started to have an arguement and it was all my falut i dont know what to do i am trying mybest to win her heart back again as i really do love her to bits i have been reading all this his website and there is some good advice on here but i just dont want to loose her sophie my gf lives 50mins away from me and i cant get up to see her as i dont have any money so what should i do. i try ringing her mobile but she dont anwser i try emailing her but nothing i ask my best mate for help and still nothing she only says hi to me on msn and i dont want to loose her i hope i sort things out can anyone help?

  31. Ali Abdulhussain Says:
    February 7th, 2010 at 3:17 pm

    Dr. George Karanastasis,

    Please excuse the slang terms, but you are the M A N !
    My girlfriend and I got into a huge fight over something which I have yet to understand why.
    At the beginning my ego was through the roof, I did not want to be the first person step forward and take the blame. But after reading your article, I wrote her an email not only apologizing, but also explaining my actions.
    IT WORKED!!

    Thank you DR!

    Ali Abdulhussain

  32. B Gustaf Says:
    February 22nd, 2010 at 4:10 am

    I have recently had a fight with my girlfriend. I told a close friend that we were making out earlier that week, and my friend told her best friend and now she thinks that i brag to all my friends “about how far we have gone”. She visited me, and i was angry at her that she would accused me of that that i snapped at her and told her to get out of my house. She is now angry at me for not being there for her when she has always been there for me. I have tried apologizing multiple times, but now she wont talk to me, and all her friends hate me because they all think i’m a lier. I really like this girl and i want this to work but i don’t know what to do.

  33. lane campbell Says:
    February 28th, 2010 at 4:31 pm

    just a few minutes ago i was walking my dog and my girlfriend trish hangs up on me so i call 2 times to c what happmed i said “i called twice and ur line keeps hanging up on me” and she said “yup” and i tryed calming her down and she is in her period week so i dont know what i did or said or annything u guys cant c it but im like freakn fliping out i dont know what i did or said can anyone try at least give me suggestion to help me out.

  34. andy Says:
    March 18th, 2010 at 11:06 am

    this method works guys .. its good to know that you are out of the corner, as a womans love is as cruel as it can be generous … write to her .. but pls tell her sincerely how you feel, if you feel it .. thanks for this article ..it saved me today ..

  35. amy Says:
    March 25th, 2010 at 12:56 am

    hey im a female. and im in a long distance relationship. yesterday my bf n i got into a huge fight through email and texts. he works nights and i work days, so our hours and means of commmunicating are a bit off…and my sleep is so important to me. yesterday at my break, i msged him, we did our usual sweet talking…then i told him i had to get back to work, and that i would be thinking of him n such n that i will be seeing him next week….he says “pfft whatever” and im like “howcome u have a negative attitude” n then he begins to go on about his soft side n that i always push him away….i do not!!! i even make poems and make awesome pictures of him that im going to show him next week…i mean, im so fricken sweet towards him…hes sweet also…anyways, i think he was just having a bad day but i swear to god. he called me harsh names like “bitch” and saying things like “As if, im not going to pay ur way here” n mean things, i said a couple mean things also…he sent a few more msg’s that i didnt bother reading so i just deleted them all……and left it at that…didnt respond back or anything, but hes on my mind like all the time, and i know he feels the same….he’s saying sorry now, in an email…….what do i do?

  36. Jaffe Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 8:45 pm

    The only thing missing from this article is the factor of justifying your mistake. If you have a reason for making a mistake, your girlfriend will understand your actions better and you will come off as self-assured. If you cannot understand why you made a mistake or a slip-of-the-tongue, you will be miserable from the guilt and have no hope of being a better communicator. Part of having a healthy relationship with some one is being open-minded about the other person and communicating well.

    If the relationship does not work out- do not lose hope in your ability to have a successful relationship with another: remember the qualities that make you a worthy individual and work towards improving the skills that caused your relationship to fail.

  37. king Says:
    April 8th, 2010 at 6:45 pm

    i started dating my girl bout a month ago and i lied to her in the beging and she took me back ….. and told me not to lie to her again and i didnt for a while and then she found out that i lied to her about someother things and i deeply care about this gurl , its just that i have relationship issues and i cant make them work sometimes , i lie about the stupidest things and am afriad i might have lost her and i dont want that , i know i have to work on some issues i have like lying ….. shes on her period so i dont know if that added extra fire to her and make her blow up on me but either way i need help and i need to stop lying and change my habbits cuz i truely like her and i dont wanna lose her i wanna show to her that i can be the man she wants in her life , a man she can trust , love and talk to when she has problems …… please tell me what to do , i mean i have some ideas like buying an apology card and she likes roses so i was thinkin of getting them also … id appriciate it if u could give me some ideas

  38. Phuong Says:
    April 10th, 2010 at 5:45 pm

    My girlfriend broke up with because i was beeing a asshole.. i ignore her for one day and talk one word convo with her.. shw was fed up and call it a quit on me… i been trying to fight her back.. i been beggin her to come back, i should of not done that.. she havent reply back to any of my text. im such an idiott. i love you bby :( can anybody help me solve this situation….?

  39. gabe Says:
    April 13th, 2010 at 5:18 pm

    I cant but help but get jealous with my girlfriend but thats causin alot of problem we been fightin alot because of it. she lost love for me because she didnt wanna deal with fighting anymore but she did in fact give me another chance but i dont wanna mess this up i want her to feel the same about me. what should i do.

  40. Boyfriend of a special girl Says:
    April 13th, 2010 at 9:14 pm

    Everyone will have relationship problems in life, it is life…But if you guys and girls really loved your partners, why the fuck are you giving up trying to apologise, sometimes it could take three days of my constantly apologising and sending sweet texts and trying to prove to her i really am sorry, but if your partner loved you just as much they would cave in after a week, if they do not then after 2 weeks tops think whether its worth the battle, why fight a never ending battle???…

    Do not buy her things constantly, because some girls think buying gifts to win their heart and trust back is just BUYING them not proving to them you love them or ever going to get your trust back from them…

    Do not give up on your partner if you really love them, keep on trying if they do not want to see you send them letters to their door you MUST know their address if your in a relationship with them long enough, just keep on trying until you get some sort of response..

    Im youngish and been in a relationship for 6 months now but giving up so easily dont get anyone anywhere because you giving up allows them to assume you do not love them that much..

    Think im being soft well girls sometimes love soft guys, why act the tough guy and the big all it just makes them see you as controlling and whatever else they think, if you think shes cheating confront her do not check her phone seriously it will only cause to a bigger row especially if you was wrong =S.

    Some guys are sensitive girls do not realise that do not beg her just try to make her realise you love her and in the end all will be ok..But those who hit girls, sort YOURSELF out before attempting to work things out why would you hit a girl in the first place :S its wrong.

    If you think that this dont work try something else but from previous experience in arguements giving up is a mans biggest weakness sorry to say =]

  41. Princess Says:
    April 16th, 2010 at 6:18 pm

    Being a girl from my point of view every relationship has its problems. If there isnt arguments in a relationship then you should worry. Having arguments is healthy and it also shows you care about the little things that bug you … yeah sometimes the little things that bug you can be stupid but so what it just shows you care. But men seriously if you really want to make it up to your girlfriends dont be buying stuff maybe a little something but trust me it doesnt work for most girls. It just makes us think that your buying things to shut us up. We just want to be made to feel like were important. Tell them how you really feel even if its by text. I have been in a relationship for six months and trust me its not always easy. Arguements happen thats life it just makes you realise whos in the wrong or not either way you learn from them. And if any man cheats just to say this no girl should EVER take them back they will only ever do it again so if your thinking about winning a girl back after cheating think again but if the girl is stupid enough you might lucky but for any girl to do that its a complete let down :) P.s guys seriously try harder.

  42. Hanno Says:
    April 18th, 2010 at 3:07 pm

    Yes correct, I often annoy my GF with logic, then we argue I go away and after I return I must quiet the thought in my head that says I was totally reasonable and just lie! yes you were right and “yes not getting a mortgage is a great idea we can save 100 000 in 20 years and buy a small house outright” even though of course in 20 years a small house would then cost 300k but I digress!

    I ve come to realise the price you pay in order to escape living alone, eating pot noodles and wanking in a single bed is being forced to do things you dont want and then listen to them afterwards and I accept that now!

  43. julien Says:
    April 19th, 2010 at 12:30 am

    I had a party with my girlfriend one day, there was like 20 girls, me and some other girls boyfriend… some girl had her sweet sixteen and we were all having fun: pillow fights and some DDR we all tryed and sukked at. One of the girls brought booze and i drank a couple shots and i hadn’t drank before, i offered some to my girlfriend she said no thanks, earlyer that same day i asked her if there would be alchool and drugs she said no. I also said “even if there wouldn’t be i wouldn’t try it cuz i think it tastes wierd and f*cks u up”. So i drank and drank, shot after shot, still nothing. Apparently i was drunk out of my mind, so they said, and never realised it. That night when I was leaving i go over to my girlfriend to kiss her, she pushes me away. I thought she was only acting and fooling around. She went back at her house and sent me a msn saying that i embarassed her a lot and made the others uncomfortable your horrible and ruined her birthday. I realise later that it was only juice in an alchool bottle and some girls wanted to prank us all. My girlfriend doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. I lied to her and made a mistake i dont know what to do, write her an apology letter and slip it in her sweater while trying to hug her? forget about her and wait until she comes talk to me when she’s ready? i honestly dont think what i did was horrible i was ready to try alchool for the first time and my girlfriend wont forgive me for what i did. i need to make up to her and fast. any ideas?

  44. jay Says:
    May 1st, 2010 at 8:55 am

    i have laid my hands thrice on my girlfriend n now she wants to leave me..i love her so much n i realize that putting my hands on her was a silly mistake..wat do i do to get her back..jay

  45. priyank Says:
    May 3rd, 2010 at 11:55 pm

    hi i havent got brokeup but my gf wanna join army and i love her so much but even i love things which makes her happy. is their anychance
    ?????

    she also loves me but she is nt happy with what she is studyin and wanna join army instead

    thanx

  46. Ian Says:
    May 4th, 2010 at 9:58 am

    Hey… i’ve been an idiot and told my gf’s best friend a few things about our love life… we are both only 16 so for her its a big thing… i didn’t mean to hurt her but now she’s just always picking fights with me and anything i do doesn’t help… recentally i’ve gone through a shit patch in my life, people dying, friends depressed and that but that doesn’t count to her for me being so “bitchy”… please help… i love her and she barely trusts anything i say

  47. Pieter Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 8:07 am

    Hi i was at my gf last night and we sit on the couch and her phone got a msg so i just asked who it was and she said her friend so i said are you sure is it not your ex boyfriend and she got angry. Feels like she doesn’t want to talk to me. I really love her a lot and dont want to loose her. Im planing on getting engadge with her in julY.Please help me win her love back.

  48. Corey Says:
    May 6th, 2010 at 5:27 pm

    I have a very difficult girlfriend. Guys, if you have one like I do who gets mad in an instant and is unreasonable. Your best bet is to give her some space. Text, call, leave a voice mail. Even if you aren’t guilty. If she really misses she will give in and at least talk to you. Just be apologetic. Women are not logical creatures. I hate to be sexist like that but it’s true. I know it’s hard to deal with. It’s like you are powerless and you need her so bad. Be patient. Never lose your cool. You will regret it if you really want to be with your girl. Good luck fellas.

  49. kevin Says:
    May 10th, 2010 at 1:14 am

    I started a fight with my girlfriend on Facebook because she’s been out of town on training and hadn’t messaged me in a week..I noticed she had changed her profile pic, so I made a comment saying that I know it’s tough to write me even one line back..ect also I let her know that I will be moving..all this happened in the week that she’s been gone.

    The only response she wrote was on her wall saying she had been thrown a curveball and that there is always a reason for someone not to respond and that even if you were a trillionaire a big star ect, that I wouldn’t even give you a minute…I just don’t have time to be around conclusion jumpers.

    I know what I did was stupid, I wrote her back giving a very solid apology because I can’t call her because her phone is down and plus I will be leaving this week to find out more about my new job opportunity.. am I totally screwed?? Any suggestions?

  50. Sandy Says:
    May 13th, 2010 at 4:29 am

    Before liking and marrying my girl i had made clear to her that i will respect her parents only if she respects mine. my parents are very dear to me.I see lot of breaches of this understandings. Now my girl is pregnant, she calls me irresponsible. Hope things get better soon

  51. jones Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 10:06 am

    Hie my wife and i had a fight a wek ago and she left to her parents home.2 day latter she came back to my houseand packed her staff we have two kids and i want my wife back,am very much stressing to the extent that i sometimes think of killing myself HELP

  52. akshay Says:
    May 26th, 2010 at 3:41 pm

    hie me and my girl friend had a fight today…only she say i am not good natured man ,,on basis of trust ,,she is not picking my phone call …she does not reply to my answers at all… what do i am in mood of killing my self….

  53. damian Says:
    May 29th, 2010 at 8:12 pm

    @jones: calm down. she will be back i assure you. you have the kids right? just give her some time to get over her anger.. hope this helps.

  54. JenShaker Says:
    May 30th, 2010 at 1:33 pm

    Arguments are essential in order to compromise each others’ feelings & to establish a “mutual”, unique, passionate, stronger relationship with real CHEMISTRY **Whatever you do to others, you do to yourself** Sometimes some people are just not meant for each other & lose total attraction for their partner regardless if they’re a good person. LOVE is not just about “settling” but about HAPPINESS in each others’ company. If you’re both unhappy, guess there’s no point if unable to reach middle-ground

  55. Dan Lewis Says:
    June 1st, 2010 at 9:02 pm

    Last night i got into a huge argument with my girlfriend. It seemed things in the beginning started to go pretty smooth and then all of a sudden things just started to go down hill. I’ll admit I get pretty jealous at times and can be controlling basically because I’ve been walked all over before by my past girl friends and I never wanted that to happen again. I know it doesn’t do any good for me to be jealous with my girl friend that she has lots of guy friends because lets face it girls are going to have guy friends wether you like it or not. The fact is that the things she told me last night made me realize that i basically ruined her life by having her push away her guy friends because of my jealousy assuming that something will happen to her. I didn’t realize she was the type of girl that just wants to get hugs from her friends and just be able to hang out with them. I know that before all of this she really loved me in the beginning but now after last night i have no idea what to do ive tried calling her today wanting to talk to her because i’m afraid if she doesn’t call back then she’ll just forget about all of this and not want to fix anything and basically move on with me. I really want to do whatever I can do help her and I fix this relationship and I want to do whatever it will take to basically not be so jealous and controlling when i shouldn’t be. If anyone has any ideas on what i should do please let me know because this girl is not some one I want to even think about losing.

  56. nickk Says:
    June 1st, 2010 at 10:08 pm

    mmy girlfriend thinks i’m cheating on her what
    do i doooo??????/

  57. Dakota Says:
    June 4th, 2010 at 5:39 pm

    ok…so me and my fiance were over at my friends house…and we started making love…she seemed pretty. then my friend walked in secretly with his video camera…i knew but didnt think it was gunna be too big of a deal..now she hates me and never wants to talk to me again..what do i do?? i love her and care about her so much and dont want to lose her…

  58. Dillin Booth Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 1:52 am

    my girlfriend and i got into a fight about how she is confused about us, and is showing no interest at all but i love her and have been trying all day to fix it but no matter what i say she just shuts it down, what should i do i need advice as soon as possibly

  59. cam Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 4:32 am

    ok long story short i picked up my bestfriend from school cuz it was raining and then i chose to take her to go have fun and we had sex and now my girlfriend found out and wont talk to either of us no matter what i say and i cant visit her cuz my car got impounded and i dont have a drivers license for a month what do i do?

  60. D. Epic #7 Says:
    June 14th, 2010 at 12:29 pm

    hey,
    everyone messes up and dose something wrong. no one is perfect and nor will they ever be. yea in a relationship your going to fight it happends but you have to just man up and tell her/him how you really feel about them. its the best thing to do TRUST ME! i got into a fight with my girlfriend yesterday and we was fighting till about an hour ago because i told her how she made me felt and how she changed my life an belonged with me and how shes an amazing person and how much i love her. you tell your S.O things like that and she/her will know that they actually mean something to you and just show her you care and if it was meant to be then it will work, if not then you will find the one you suppose to be with. yea it will hurt but all pain heals in time:) and it will work for the best.

  61. oliver keith Says:
    June 20th, 2010 at 9:56 am

    i had a fight with my girl friend because i neglect her in hole afternoon wen shes in japan, i didnt sent her an email like how are you or what,, ohh what should i do or say, she’s ignoring me shes not replying, the hard thing here is were both apart im in phillipiness and shes in japan,, what should i do?

  62. Deep Says:
    June 24th, 2010 at 4:30 am

    2days ago i had my xam n then my brain was a bit static. Tht time i called my girlfro n i found her busy over phone. Later she said tht it was her best fro whom she was talkin 2. N said she needs 2 talk 2 him more. I got angry n spelled some rude words. Later at night tht she didn talk 2 me whil talked 2 sumbody for 2 hours whil generally she talks 2 me for 1 hour. On askin bout th cal she just ignored me n asked not 2 interfer in her problems. Then now she says im dominating n she wanna get a break from it. Wat 2 do 2 maintain this relationship?

  63. JackAss Says:
    June 28th, 2010 at 8:50 am

    I have a great fight with my girlfriend last night. . she indeed crying infront of my mom. The story is like this, we went to birthday of a daughter of my friend. It was like a reunion because most my friends came to that party. My friends and I were talking and sharing about our friendship in the past, something like a “How are you?” thing or “What happened this past few years. I didn’t realize that she got out of place. The thing that she got pissed off or mad about is my friends and I where smoking and drinking. My mom told me what happened was wrong. I should not let her be out of placed. I realized my mistake. I wanna tell her I’m sorry. But I don’t know how. Please help me.

  64. JackAss Says:
    June 28th, 2010 at 8:52 am

    Well, cam. . You are really the craziest and the most jerk of all. . If you’re gonna cheat your girlfriend, make sure you will not get caught or you just deny it. .

  65. DeathWard Says:
    July 2nd, 2010 at 1:37 pm

    Thank you for your advice i’m going to give it a try and see if it works out.. I guess I should have taken the first chance to do something nice for her and set things right but i am a dummy some times when it comes to what other people feel. anyways thanks for some direction i feel like i can handle this situation a lot better now

  66. Janren Says:
    July 7th, 2010 at 7:01 am

    Hi, my gf was angry with me because of my jealous..
    can you help me how to say soory, and what way..

  67. harvey Says:
    August 5th, 2010 at 3:34 am

    I had this big fight with my gf that its just when i always call my gf everytime but it seems she is busy but i cant take control of myself that im not satisfied of this things that she wont answer my calls. And the problem is she got angry of it that she thought i was angry its because of her not answering my calls. But im trying my best to tell her that it doesnt mean that i dont trust her, its just im just affraid of losing her cause im so affraid that someone might take her from me, not by just calling her all the time its because of i dont trust her its just i want to call her all the time to know what she is doing… but then again she got angry with it… and she didnt understand why im like this??? plz help me how to explain it to her why im like this….. thxxxxxx

  68. harvey Says:
    August 5th, 2010 at 3:38 am

    Im trying my best to tell her about this situation why im always calling her its because i just want to know what she is doing but the problem is she got angry with it that why am i always calling her and she thought that i dont trust her??? i didnt ment for that its just i just want to know wether she is doing fine, but she got angry of it, its because of my attitude that im on the look out of her.. plz help me giving her the explaination that why im like this…. help me plz thx ur the best….

  69. james Says:
    August 11th, 2010 at 2:50 pm

    hi guys i need help

    the other day me and my (ex) girlfriend had a argument and i sed some things i didnt mean to say but the reason the argument happened was because we moved into a flat and the pressure of movin in to the thing and the wednesday we got aload of stuff from a ware house and it was the thing of me gettin all that made me tired and like she sed to me that her m8s was comin round! and me bein me i got in a mood and didnt ask and basically thats what started it it was the stress of the house and everything in it and the fact my sister who i hadnt seen in 3 yrs came dwn and we oviously put her up and thats when she started treatin the place like a hotel so me and my girlfriend got annoyed with it. anyway i sed something i shouldnt have and that thing was a heartless b*tch. i know i shouldnt have sed it. but then she ended the relationship oviously cause i hurt her
    i love her and want her back and like other things went down aswell but this thing is too long lol and i dunno what to do i really love her please help me please

  70. kemoy Says:
    August 13th, 2010 at 6:27 pm

    we met about this time last year, she seems like a very nice person, she went off to school last year september and trhu all that time i have been the one who have been there 4 her

    the other guys she tlking to havnt been there just tlk once in a while, but i even went as far as to get a phone that we can tlk all we want for free, we tlk everyday i dont think she tlk to the other guys as much as me because we always on the phone together

    if she have anything to get done in sch ill go the extra mile to do till my friends say am mad, i even stay up at nites n study with her, help her with projects making sure everything is in order

    then she said one evening she was at her friends house her friends bf was there n they were running some joke n she ask if he had a brother n he said yes if she would like to meet him, n she said yes, then she said n the guy started talkin, n she said she nt stop tlking to him because she dont knw where it might leave.

    thats why i did wat i did

    how should i go from here?

  71. charlton Says:
    August 17th, 2010 at 10:51 am

    ma girlfriend had a miscarriage after months of not seeing each other can we get back 2gether again?

  72. jay Says:
    August 30th, 2010 at 10:12 pm

    the other day I got into a arguement with my girlfriend it was a heated one over nothing and i blurted out your a waste of time then she hung up and texted me back saying i would never had said that to you ever i wrote a long text and sent her a messege on facebook saying im sorry and it wont ever happen again but she hasnt called or texted me back in two days and i havent called her neither what should i do to fix this if it can be fixed.

  73. Mr. Wrong Says:
    September 2nd, 2010 at 8:52 pm

    Shes a’gonna punch me in the face!

  74. TO cam Says:
    September 3rd, 2010 at 4:43 pm

    The best thing to do is to tell her shes better off without you and move on because its not fair on her to be with someone who disrespects her and had sex with another girl. Even if she is foolish enough to take you back, the trust will be gone and she’ll cry so much.. mabey not in front of you, but she will. I am a female and trust me i know, dont do it to another girlfriend, you will lose her aswell.

  75. Your friend Says:
    September 17th, 2010 at 9:03 am

    These steps are awesome and true.

    My girlfriend and I took a “break” over an issue with communication, I should have told her everything but left out a part she may have been mad at me about, she already knew the truth but was testin me. She was resolute about her decision last night, she might still be like that as well, I know she wants me to “look for her”, you know what I mean? But even If God helps me fix it, I need to be completly open and make sure I don’t do something that could make her mad and think of me being untrustworthy, or more so than she already feels.

    As for everyone else, don’t cheat on your gf! You’d be lucky if she still takes you back, but if she does, then stay away from any woman you might find attractive or that might find you attractive. Sometimes, however, she may forgive you easier than not; if so, be resolute in a decision to stay away from anything that could potentiolly cause a division…

  76. rick Says:
    September 18th, 2010 at 1:34 am

    i really really need ur help in this..i had been dating this beautiful girl i love soo much since 3 months..everything had been fine..we were happy together..used to get less time to spend together due to school.last time i met her,she called me at her school to meet her.and her friends.for 1-2 hours things were fine.but there occured a misunderstanding.i used my phone for a few while,she didnt liked it.and started ignoring me.i thought she would understand that its just official use of phone.she started ignoring me.due to that.as i was unaware why is she sad.i felt soo uncomfortable that she isnt talking to me.so i also dint talked to her thinking she isnt in a good mood.now she isnt talking to me at all.been 4 days.no replies nothing.she says she doesnt love me any more..what should i do.?

  77. George Says:
    September 22nd, 2010 at 11:19 am

    i got into a fight with my girlfriend of 11 months, i want her to trust me and tell me when i do wrong. but she is a quiet one.. like she keeps all her anger and thaughts to her self. like we have had a good relationship till tonight. she was talking to a friend about me on some website and i read 2 comments.. and i found it quite a shock.. her friend was telling my gf to blame her moving out on me.. i confronted her about it and she started to spazz at me.. then she got a bit pushy and started to walk out the door, i stopped her and she went to bed.. she has her things packed to leave tomorrow by the looks of things.. i feel so down and dont know what to do… should i let her leave? or should i do somthing befor its too late? help me please… :(

  78. Princess Says:
    September 27th, 2010 at 11:51 am

    P.s me again :) guys guys guys… sort chasing after girls that clearly are wasting your time. If shes still ignoring you after a couple of weeks whats the point? shes obviously not bothering so why should you? Cam why the heck would you sleep with your bestfriend? fun? obviously it wasnt worth it because now youve lost your girlfriend to be honest i think shes better off without you. it doesnt matter if you think it was just a bit of fun you was in a relationship with her and then you cheated there is not excuse for what you did so if you expect her to come running your wrong. Shes hurting and doesnt trust you. I dont think anyone can help you it was your own stupid mistake and now youve lost what could of been something great. Maybe next time you should think twice before cheating. DAKOTA: give yor girlfriend some space, shes embrassed and feels ashamed she wants your sex life to be between just you two, obviously she feels uncomfortable because your mate was filming her which she probably found creepy and pervy which i dont blame her i would be completely the same.

  79. Spencer Says:
    October 2nd, 2010 at 11:38 am

    Some women like to play games, some dont. If yours is a good woman who doesnt, your lucky. For the not so lucky, heres what you do. BREAK THE FUCK UP!

  80. Andrew Says:
    October 13th, 2010 at 7:50 pm

    Hi, I just got into a fight with my girlfriend and she told me she hates me and give her time to think. The reason being, to sum it up, I told her I was tired of her and I feel terrible about it. I didn’t actually mean it, I was just angry and physically tired at the moment and blurted it out. What can I do?

  81. Nick Says:
    October 14th, 2010 at 1:19 pm

    My girlfriend and i started dating in the begining of the year. things were okay but i didn’t have that much feelings for her in the start while i was messing around with other girls. I soon later found out that she cheated on me with my bestfriend they just Kissed and etc etc no Sexual intercouse though. I was so angry but yet I didn’t tell her that i was messing around too, yet I forgave her and things went back to normal as it seems. I went away for work for seven weeks while i was way on 6th week i received a phone from her early hours in the morning she was crying saying How “sorry” she was she cheated on me again and still same thing kiss etc but sexual intercourse this time with some Guy who was at her brothers house when this all happened. I forgave her again but still didn’t tell her that i was seeing other girls when i was away for work. So when i came back we sorted things out and we finally started fresh. Before I knew i started have more deep feelings for her, respected her more,Stop fooling around, and then i finally said ” I Love you to her as it got more intimate and when she lost her Virginity to me that’s when i started to feel insecure about her.My gf always started to provoke the on….it got to a point where she started to talk about my bestfriend Penis at that instant i snapped a slaped her across the face ever since then i couldn’t stop it went from bad to worse. Now it’s been ten Months ive stopped hitting about 6 months ago so our relationship went back okay but she can’t help but to provoke me and cal cruel names i don’t hit her anymore she’s put through me alot of stress…..I wont give up on her i said she needs help but she can’t see it though! i just wanna know shouuld i Just let her go cause she will never change she always trys to make me Jealous… Should i give up or keep fighting for hope that will get better in time! Is it Fratuatuion or Love? PLEASE HELP ME

  82. i love him i dont wat to do Says:
    October 20th, 2010 at 9:12 pm

    so, me and dis boy have been on and off since januray we went for a whole 4months, or 5maybee then things just started to get bad for some reason, and we broke up but we wud always get back together, and now all of a sudden, its like he left me for another girl and he said he dont love me or care about me anymore but i love him with all my heart , and i will do anything for him, hes mad at me b/c da girl he left me, for he said dat i messed them up and that i broke them up all i told her is dat she better not hurt him he has been threw enough, and then i guess she felt like i was putting her into drama, and then he got mad and sed never to talk to him again, i mean its a long story but some one please help me asap i dont want it to be compeletly over, cux das wat he said and all i was doing was tryn to protect him

  83. Seph Says:
    October 24th, 2010 at 8:09 pm

    i am not YET fighting with my girlfriend but i think im about to. i don’t know what to do. she isn’t replying yet after i told her that i cannot come to our date today because my fucking dad and i argued so i cannot go out. i don’t know if she’s going to be mad but i hope not but if ever I’ll do anything to get her forgiveness, like what im doing now,im searching the net on how to make up with her. so i guess that’s a start right. so guys, no matter what your mistake is,your girlfriends will understand it as long as you show her how truly sorry you are :) good luck to us!

  84. HUNTY Says:
    October 27th, 2010 at 10:05 am

    I AM 22 Y/O AND RECENTLY HAD A MASSAGE OFF MY GIRLFRIENDS FRIEND WHO IS 38 OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT! THEN A COUPLE OF WEEKS LATER AFTER THIS MASSAGE THIS 38 Y/O STARTED TO TEXT ME, IT ALL STARTED OFF AS GENERAL CHIT CHAT THEN SHE BEGAN TO FLIRT, I LAUGHED OUT LOUD WHEN I READ THE TEXTS BUT ME BEING AT TOTAL WHOPPER SENT A FEW FLIRTY MESSAGES BACK AND THAT WAS THAT, I REALISED ID DONE WRONG BUT THOUGHT NOTHING OFF IT BECAUSE I WAS ONLY DOING IT FOR A LAUGH, NEVER DID I WANT ANYTHING TO COME OF IT AND NEITHER DID SHE. THEN MY GIRLFRIEND WAS ROUND AT THIS 38 Y/O HOUSE AND WAS PLAYING ABOUT ON HER PHONE AND MY GIRLFRIEND STUMBLED ACROSS THESE TEXTS. OBVIOUSLY SHE GOT IN CONTACT WITH ME AND SAID SHE NEVER WANTED TO SPEAK TO ME AGAIN AND EVERYTHING GOT BLEW OUT OF PREPORTION. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FAR TOO LONG FOR SOMETHING AS STUPID AS THIS TO SPLIT US BOTH UP DONT YOU THINK… WHAT DO I DO FROM HERE? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPP!!!!!!!!

  85. Simon says Says:
    November 3rd, 2010 at 12:58 am

    Heh my girlfriend is 19 and she banged this 40 yr old douche bag that we worked with (before I met her) I would guess less than 15 and more than 5 times. After we met they were still “friends” but I didn’t know what had gone on between them. Basically I knew the guy while all this was goin on between her and him but like I said I hadn’t met her yet. So anyway after they met he would ask her like everyday “hey let’s go to the bar and ill buy” and this and that and she would tell him no but he’s a persistent dude so one day he asked her and she said ok long story short he fed her liquer until she was blackout drunk and got her home and u can guess what happend next this happend a few more times from nov thru dec 09 I met her in dec so knowing what I know now it’s hard to tell where he ended and I began. Anyway fast foreward to feb we had been together for a few weeks she lived about 20 mins south and it was snowy one day and she wanted to stay in town but not with me cus she didn’t know how my parents would feel about that so she stayed with him. Fast foreward about 3 more weeks finally she tells me everything that had happend between them so I start askin questions about her staying with me and she said nothing happend… Fast foreward a few more months she starts explaining some things about that night that he did after she said no. he didn’t stop and she was fighting him off and holding her down and raped her…. This happened 4 times 3 before we were together 1 while she was with me so u can imagine the trust issues I have u start to think and ask yourself “did she cheat on me and then lie about it? Maybe she did this before it was serious (between us) and then it got serious and she felt guilty and lied about it. Anyways we have had some troubles with this and I had never been thru anything like that it makes no sence.. Anyways I know now that she was telling the truth after many discussions about it and she actually woke me up one night cus she was havin a nightmare about him and I looked over and she was trying to push someone off of her.. For the longest time it didn’t make any sence to me I couldn’t believe anything she told me it sounded like total bulls#%t to cover herself up but she was telling the truth. Anyways I almost had the dude killed and I’m glad I decided not to but I still wish I could get some payback cus he knew she was with me and he didn’t stop he totally took advantage of her body that’s a hard situation u guys have it easy I wish I could just have had a normal little debacle with my girlfriend but nope straight to the deep harsh dark realities of life trust me people it could be ALOT WORSE like a story with no true closure u just live with it everyday that’s it… Anyone want to trade?

  86. eswaran Says:
    November 21st, 2010 at 4:49 pm

    I need Advice

    me and my girlfriend were been friends for passed 1 1/2 years but we did not meet each other till now.we use to chat throw sms in phones and one time we have spoken throw phone.i start to love here and i said to here she refused it.then also we chat were friendly second time i props here she refused me and avoid me till now.but she is not in love with anyone.i need here friendship.i apologized here even many time but no response from her.i am waiting for here response till now.

    what should i need to do to get here friendship back?pls help me………….

    today is birthday but she did not even wish me. for my last birthday she wish me at sharp 12.this time not even a message from her.i still love her a lottttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

  87. joel Says:
    November 28th, 2010 at 1:03 am

    my girlfriend and i got into a fight about me not seeing her as much and putting her as my first priority but i know i always did. We have been together almost 2yrs and she doesn’t want me back anymore she says she loves me but she doesn’t feel love for me like she did its breaking my heart it hurts so much. What can i do???????

  88. Princess Says:
    November 30th, 2010 at 11:33 am

    Hello guys, its me again. first of all…
    Joel: Give your girlfriend some space maybe she just needs time to think, if she takes too long then maybe its best you move on because you cant wait around forever, is you not seeing her much your fault? or is it because you have work? because if it isnt i can see where she is coming from maybe shes thinks your not interested in her as much as girls can be really insecure so hang in there dude.

    Simon: your dealing with a harder situation than anyone on this blog website, just do your best support her and be there for her. This kind of thing is going to effect her for the rest of her life. you just being there for her means allot to her and she will feel allot better. You not believing her at first shows that maybe you have some trust issues but one thing that you have got to understand is it couldnt of been easy for her to tell you that she got raped as she was probably scared you would of ran off like some men do but you staying with her supporting her is showing how much you care about her and love her and thats whats probably keeping her going at the moment :)

  89. lloyd Says:
    December 15th, 2010 at 7:19 pm

    hi, me and my gf have been having a great relationship,
    well she tells me everything and so do i to her, and she told me things about a mate of hers which made me pissed at this mate cause she does stupid things to equal what me n my gf hav done with random guys.
    I removed her on facebook but she posted something on a guys wall i saw it n added her n had a go at slags n such, i didnt tell i her i knew wat she does, but it was obvious, she immediately told my girl who got pissed at me as you expect. I was a complete idiot n went way too far in the convo to the mate cause she angered me by saying being a slut is ok i lost it n said my feelings about them.
    I spoke to my girl straight after she found out, explained myself but she says she doesnt think it will be anytime soon before she tells me secrets n i said i completely understood that and she forgave me. Im back from university soon and shes coming over that night, how can i show her she can trust me again?

  90. annonymous Says:
    December 24th, 2010 at 1:48 pm

    I’m a woman writing this…my husband and I were together for 7 yrs. He has always treated me like just an object, and he is a complete womanizer! He has done such mean things to me and hurt me severely thru out the yrs. It has been hard to forgive and forget, but I’ve done it…all on my own might I ad. He has never shown any remourse for his actions in the past. Well after our 2nd son was born he started cheating with this older woman from the bar…which it went on for a yr and he missed the whole forst yr of our youngest sons life because of it. When I would confront him about his infedelity he would lie and say “oh it’s not what you think, we are just friends” BULLSHIT, am I supposed to believe that you’re taking her to casinos on mothers day, spending most of your time with her and you aren’t having sex? I’m not dumb! Well I tried giving an ultimatum….it’s me or her!! His response “I won’t choose”. Needless to say eventually this affair ended and I forgave him, yet again, and got over it completely on my own! And kept the relationship going on my own as well! Many events led up to me getting fed up and wanting to leave…him ignoring me, not spending any time with me, being mean and disrespectful, anytime I’d try to tell him I was unhappy he’s blow up and say “there are people out there with bigger problems that you, suck it up”. So fed up I left. Needless to say I was friends with our neighbor, as was he…and it was a man. He left his girlfriend and we chatted over the phone. And ended up hooking up(which if I could take back, trust me I would, biggest mistake of my life) well my husband (which we werent married at the time) found out and blew up, which he had the right to. I would be pissed too! But I LEFT before I ever hooked up with another guy. All the drama aside he begs me back….so I know I love him deeply and he seems sincere. So I go back home because that’s all I wanted all along is for him to respect my feelings and to treat me like a person and not an object (the reason I left). So we plan to have another baby and get married within the month we are back together. Start going to couples counseling and things seem to be ok. Well small world he has a public run in with the neighbor, so it puts him into a rage and he takes it out on me…calling me so many degrading names, then saying why would I want to be with you? I’m now pregnant with our thrid child only # months after being back together and things are worse than ever. He is mean to me, degrades me by calling me names, always says “why would I want to be with a hoe like you”. What am I supposed to do? I have appologized numerous times, been here proving myself and how sorry I am for what I did, but it doesn’t seem to matter to him. When I say I’m sorry he says “how can I believe you”? and “I don’t know if I’ll ever forgive you”. Do I take the time and bow down to him for as long as it takes or do I say I’m done? I love him very much and have been done so wrong for 7 yrs by him, which doesn’t lessen what I did wrong, but come on now, why the torture? Why does it have to make our lives? Bad things happen to the best of us, learn from it and move on….just as I did for 7 years! Any advice?

  91. mitch Says:
    January 3rd, 2011 at 2:54 pm

    amy girlfriend hated me cuz i diddent kiss her because i was verry sick and diddent want to make her sick i only wish she could see what i was doing and how i felt.

  92. Jake Says:
    January 9th, 2011 at 2:35 am

    I accidentally told my girlfiend a seemingly I small lie about me and a girl I used to date way before I met her and I did not want to seem like a loser and tell her I was a virgin.So about 8 months ago I told her that I was not. It reared its ugly head a day or 2 ago and it has hit her hard. I did not realize that that mattered so much to her but I never meant to hurt her. Any advice on how to make up??

  93. sagar Says:
    January 30th, 2011 at 3:16 am

    i had a fight with my friend because i would call 10-15 times a and i used to go where she would go bcoz i liked her. finally a particular day she said that u stop talking to me and u dont follow wherever i go. so i didint talk to her for 7 days and after that i asked her do u want to talk to me n she said ‘no’. and i said her i’ll still be loving u and i still like her
    now what should i do
    plz suggest me

  94. Nick Says:
    February 2nd, 2011 at 6:56 pm

    Yesterday me and my gf got into a huge fight cuz I was having a horrible day and she decides to get a ride home from my best guy friend.. Ok Ended up gettin all pissed and we gor into a huge fight which we also been gettin into fights.. I apologized numerous times and took the blame for it but she still is mad.. What do I do next? Can someone help and also help me so we dont get in anymore horrible fights?.. You can reach me at yahoo.com under bestsnowboarder559@yahoo.com, please help I love her veru much

  95. steve Says:
    February 7th, 2011 at 2:09 am

    im totally agree with Tony in comment no: 26

    If u done anything wrong/hurt her, just let her calm down for few days then apologize to her. She will forgive u no matter how if she still loves u.
    on the contrary, if she doenst, u should discontinue your relationship with peaceful. One day , she will comes back to u if u are the better one among the others.

  96. John Says:
    February 15th, 2011 at 5:12 pm

    Ye em am in love with this girl and i got all jealous when she was talkin to my best friend and snapped at er and said i was done but i never meant it to go that far now shes all mad , see we really like each other but were takeing it slow and a dont know if al get another chance

  97. john Says:
    February 20th, 2011 at 5:34 am

    i promised my girlfriend i wouldnt cuss anymore and my friend had texted me about this show and i accedentaly said it ti her and i had said the f word in it and i lost her trust for good what do i do?

  98. jordan Says:
    February 22nd, 2011 at 3:54 am

    HELP ME!!!! me and my girlfriend had a fight because i spoke to her friend when she said not to now she wont even say i love you to me she is so angry i love this girl with all my heart i would do anything to make it up to her please if any1 can help me it would be appreciated thx

  99. Charlotte. Says:
    February 23rd, 2011 at 3:37 pm

    My boyfriend never gets my birthday right, he always gives me a few wishes before the actual birthday. However he always remembers his ex’s birthday and they were only together for a year, ive been with that bloody sod for 3 years. The only way i deal with it is tolerance because i really love him and as much as it pisses me off that he thnks about her i allow him to do so because im afraid to lose him.

  100. Skylar Says:
    February 25th, 2011 at 1:43 am

    Ok so I was txting my best friend thts a guy he is nice sweet and just a great friend i loved him with mu whole i would always tlk bout him no matter wht i was kinda obsessed kinda so im txting him and we both say hi and a few days before were were just jk around of if we were to go in the woods anx have sex it was funny and all a joke nothing was real well appenetarly every time he said something bad and dirty i would ask him if he was kidding or not he always said no it would freak me out but i knew he was kidding so were toting and all of the sudden he calls me prude im not prude i would b the last person tp b called prude but u c he wax kinda prude i told him i wasn’t prude and he kept on saying i was so hen i just forget bout that and i keep tlkin to him noelrmal stuff so then i askrl him if he thought i was slutty he said yes but he thought its hot how i act slutty anyway he says idk and we move on he tells me im flat and so u tell him that everything that wechave been saying for the past week is all a joke well he didn’t no that so herd we are yelling at eachother and then he said ok bye so then im pissed off and i said well bye bye prude and tht was it so then i go on google and get advice on how to just be friends again and they say to apologize so i txted him and said sry and he never txted me bcd i need urgent help asap and tomorrow i half to sit by him so idk whts going to happen wish me luck

  101. ItalianStallion Says:
    February 25th, 2011 at 7:13 pm

    Hi,
    Im 35 been with my partner 16 years…And my story is long…Basically I have been through a lot withh her I love her…but I fell for another girl at UNI…She is everthing that I want…I have not felt like this before…It is crazy….However, this girl plays games with my mind and I think that is a part of the attraction…

  102. Just another dude... Says:
    February 26th, 2011 at 10:28 am

    I’ve been in a relationship for almost a year now and my girl NEVER wants to admit shes wrong or just cant apologize because she felt i “always” started the problem… I hate the facct I have the proud type… I love her so much though and everytime we get into HUGE fights (which was more than 20+) times… she ALWAYS takes me back when I dump her or she dumps me… Right now we calm down and guess what dudes, take this from someone who had MAJOR relationship issues before with a 6 yr term ex… Women are like a rose, they’re sensitive… and omg, I see a lot of people saying that their girl is mad because you werent there for them, lied, got drunk, worked late… uh hello..? THATS love for ya guys… Shouldn’t you be lucky a woman ACTUALLY gets upset when you’re not around? I know how to make ANY fight small now, through experience, you need to let them win, you need to give letters and like the woman said on this post, A romantic DINNER or chocolates… Not jewelry, that’s not true because… If a material makes them happy, you’re sort of screwed if they “like the gift”… Swallow pride and admit your faults… I guaranteed you, things will get better… Also, women make things up in a great way… The things wwith us guys, we need to accept the fact they get mad because even though were having our alone times and doing what we have to do, it shows we love them enough to give them space… and DON’T suffocate your loved one with 10-100 calls.. let them calm down, it takes from 1 day, to one week, or hell… even more depends on who you’re with…

  103. alex love Says:
    February 27th, 2011 at 1:17 am

    ok heres mine i got into with my gf who i really love. the reasone we got into a fight was because i tell her come to me with anything and i wont get mad… but she came to me acouple of times about certain stuff like she wants to hang out with her friends more cuz she hasnt in a really long time but instead of saying ya babe thats fine…. i got all mad and took it in a neg way … and also she lied to me once about something and i always bring that up when we fight i told her im srry and it wont happen…. but now i feel like things are alittle diff and dont know what to do… i just want it back to the way it was…..

  104. youngmulla Says:
    March 5th, 2011 at 4:55 pm

    i’ve been with my girlfriend for 1 year 5 months, it was a perfect relationship until like a month ago, we wer so close and bond, we would allways look for time to be together, we go to the same university, we don’t have classes together though, but we used to look for eachother every time we had time to spare, we would allways eat together, at one oint we used to go early to school to jog together, we would make love like twice or more times a month, when we went out on weekends we would allways be together alone, she used to make cute gifts for me and all, i miss that so much, but like a month ago she told me she had to go to a reunion at a town close to mine, and she had to stay at a house with like 4 more girls and 3 guys, who she claimed, 1 was gay, and another one had a gf, so i wasnt supposed to get jealouse, but i flipped out, i totally flipped out i tried to make her feel guilty, and when she came back i had to beg her to forgive me and all, you know, no matter what we (the guys) allways have the fault. after that day the relationship changed radically, she kept beeing cute with me and all, but she stopped looking for me, she stopped finding time to spend together, when we are able to meet she would rather not, and i feel she just meets with me cause i kinda obligate her, it was all “allright” untill last thursday, i was really pissed cuz since a month ago we havent gon out and spent quality time together, and my gf told me we could go out and her friend (a girl) could join us, and i told her i wouldnt agree cuz i feel it’s not right, we havent spent time together and the day we can go out abd be by our selves she preffered going out with her friend, so i went out by my self, i got all drunk, than i decided to meet up with my gf and her friend at the bat they were at, and i gave em the dirty looks, i made my gf feel bad, i just went to bother them so mi gf left with her friend, and i left too on my own, the next morning she told me “DONT TALK TO ME” she told me she didnt even want to text me, she logged of msn, she didnt pick up her phone, i admit i sduffocated her with appologies and all that, and she just blew up and said “DONT TALK TO ME LEAVE ME ALONE PLEASE SHUT UP BLAH BLAH BLAH!” so she wont talk to me and she told nme i lost my oportunity to make it up to her thursday night, and so did i lose her, idk what to do i’m desperate, i dont wanna be without her i miss her so much please help me.

  105. brendan Says:
    March 10th, 2011 at 9:55 pm

    me and my girl had a fight and i realy love her im not sure what to say or do

  106. Marjolein Says:
    March 16th, 2011 at 8:59 pm

    Ok so, im a girl and im reading this so I can give advice to my fiancee how to make up when we had a fight. he is always doing it wrong, almost forcing me to accept his apology when im still very angry. which makes me want to refuse, he gets himself hurt very badly that way.

    anyway what I wanted to say is, this would TOTALLY work on me.

  107. jj Says:
    March 19th, 2011 at 11:02 am

    I’m trying to get a second chance in a relationship I started 3yrs ago but only lasted a few months. I just recently started talking to her again, and things started well, as if we had never broken up. But the thing is, is a couple days before we got back together to hang out and talk, I had spent two evenings with her best friend. She never spent the night. Although the evenings only consisted of her best friend and I hanging out at my house watching movies (with my roommates), we did kiss once. I know I made a mistake but I was single and didn’t think I could possibly have a second chance with this girl. I did not do anything more than watch a movie with her best friend and then she kissed me, I kissed back, and she left. No sex. I did not come out and completely tell her what I did initially because I didn’t realize her best friend would text her before I got to hang out with her and tell her about it before I had the chance. so I look shady as if I was hiding it because I never told her over the phone. I’m a personal guy who likes to do things in person.

  108. Jake Says:
    March 21st, 2011 at 3:05 pm

    me and my gf have been going out for 2 months, we have this problem, she always talks about her ex which makes me feel like im not good enough leading into a argument, and when i get mad i say bad things about myself and that im not good enough im used ect ect , and after a few hours or so i try my best to aplolgize she says “you always say that but you don’t mean it” i do really mean it from my heart but it’s hard to prove it if you get me, could anyone help me? please thanks, Jake

  109. Joan Says:
    March 23rd, 2011 at 1:56 pm

    Jake, just shower her with gifts? flowers? surprise her..

    My story

    I’ve been with my bf for almost 2 years. Last 2 days we had a fight and quarrel. He punch his fists on the wall infront of public where everyone could see us.. It just hurts me a lot when he even talks to me about my ex bf making him not good enough.

    I did everything to get him back, but now he says ” I need time to think” maybe for a week?..
    What should i do? ignore his texts or calls?..
    Does he still wants to be with me or just slowly avoiding me..

    please email me i need help fast.
    coolhoney92@hotmail.com

  110. Suhas Says:
    March 30th, 2011 at 8:26 am

    hi joan one thing i can say is that your by is jealous and is unable to get over the fact that you have an ex so spend a lot of time alone with him show him how much he means to you. he is trying to grab all your attention to himself so he is behaving like that. and after everything is sorted out try talking to him calming about how it hurts when he talks about your ex.
    And if you told him about your ex by yourself before going out with him you did the right thing so just tell him “i told you about my ex coz in future if you come to by someone else it will hurt you very badly” after this if he truely loves you he will never let anything come between you two.

  111. Shan Says:
    April 5th, 2011 at 7:45 pm

    Just break up

  112. Mate Says:
    April 11th, 2011 at 11:14 pm

    Alright I walked of during dinner and put down some money on the table and said to pay the bill but she wad with a friend. Than I tool off to smoke a cig. Than came back and they weren’t there anymore. So I walked down to were the car was and her best friend walked up to me and said what’s going on? Than I said ” I just needed time to myself ” and he said she was crying the whole walk back. Than he told me to go speak to her and we were intoxicated the hole time as well and everything was great before the incident than today in the morning she said it was over. What go I do an suggestions?

  113. Jaan Says:
    April 20th, 2011 at 1:20 am

    Hi,
    I dont know what to say as to be honest this is the first time I am at this kind of forum to write this kind of emotional thing.. Recently, I got into quarrel with my gf, and thing does not seem to get better at all. The worst thing is she just email me to say that she doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore.. I love her, and I love her by my whole heart. It is frastuating, but I understand.. as during this frastuating period (for both of us) I constantly wanting to write to her, to communicate with her; while all what she needs is some space.. To be honest, I did that only because of the feeling of caring.. but somehow it turns to the worst possible counter-productive act..
    I feel that my whole life is emptied, and my love to her makes me quite sure that I will never recover. So, if you guys are in the same situation, pls do not ever do the same mistake..

  114. Kobe Says:
    April 25th, 2011 at 2:16 pm

    I took my gf and my friends clubbing this past weekend. I got jealous at my gf because she kept looking at someone so i told her what’s up and then the huge fight started. My gf didn’t listen to me and i just got in a huge fight and walked out the club. i already apologize to her and she still is very dissapointed in me. what should i do after i already apologize to her? She tells me that she doesn’t trust me and respect me no more and it will take a long time for me to gain it back.

  115. Kobe Says:
    April 25th, 2011 at 2:19 pm

    What can i do to make it up to my gf? I really messed up in fighting with her at the club and made a big scence. She told me that she doesn’t even want to look at me or talk to me and doesn’t know what to do because of the anger that she still has. Can you please give me some adive please and thanks.

  116. Hello Says:
    May 4th, 2011 at 10:34 am

    hello i lied and didnt tell her the truth i had to freakin lie yes its a really bad move and lied to my gf and she said shes done it and when she said she was done she walked away and said dont bother tryn to talk i tryed to get her to stop but she said she was done with my stuff but i really love or else i wouldnt be trying to save this relationship how can i save this plzzz help!!! Ariel I Love you

  117. Diamond&Ariel Says:
    May 4th, 2011 at 10:47 am

    well this is wat u can do guys with the prob. sit down in a private area . and get a piece of paper . make a tea chart. and title the sides left side good things right side and list good things like memorys and goodtimes, loving moments. and on the right list all th bad things that has happend. and when the left side has more good things u know its worth fighting for. a freind tolled me that

  118. jimmy Says:
    May 4th, 2011 at 5:31 pm

    ok my story is a little different … i went to jail for 3 days because of unpaid parking tickets, and when i got out i had stuff in my facebook inbox from a close friend of my girlfriends,hes not a bad dude in fact i wish i chose friends like him to hang with,anyways the messages were things like “ive been seeing your girl…etc” now come to find out both of our fb pages were hacked,but lets rewind a bit,we got into a huge fight over this and i flipped (over the phone one night) and i scared her,she was afraid to come home…i overreacted and i let out the side of me i never wanted her to see and i never wanted to hurt her in anyway,i know i was wrong but since i lived with her at her rents house we spent every waking second together,my bad i need space and so does she,its now may 4 and ive barely spoken with her since friday april 29…im staying at my brtothers house for now ,when she dropped me off(my car is impounded) she said i love you but hasnt said it once since then?should i worry about that?or is she just still mad/scared? she also said she wasnts to talk to me this thursday about something and i asked her if she was leaving me and all she said was relax well talk about everything then? should i worry or not i love her and until recently weve had a picture perfect relation ship

  119. ??? Says:
    May 5th, 2011 at 3:00 pm

    Me and my boyfriend have been together now for 1 and a half years, i feel so close to him and i love him with all of my heart, but we argue over the silliest little things, i admit i am the one who starts the arguments by moaning, but all he f,in does is sit on his x- box playing fifa when i go to college and work all day, and then when i get home and want to have a nice chat, all he does is play that :@ we have agreed to him only playing a couple of times a night but he forgets and if he isnt in a good mood he will just play it to annoy me, i just want a nice happy life with him. . . help me x

  120. James Says:
    May 6th, 2011 at 2:02 pm

    Basicly I picked a fight over nothing and turned myself into a huge ass. So i followed the steps here and i asked if i could meet her to appologize did the apology, gave the card i even made a origami rose to go with the card (Not the prettiest thing. That night she texted me and said i guess i appreciate the appology, but what do you want me to say. I sent a message back saying look i know i was an idiot and i messed up but i want to be with you but i also understand its gonna take time for you to fogive me. So here i am waiting and it may be the worst thing in the world just woundering if im enough for her to take back.

  121. David Says:
    May 7th, 2011 at 3:58 pm

    what do you think i should do if my girlfriend wont meet up with me for a chat or anything.

  122. David Says:
    May 7th, 2011 at 4:03 pm

    i am scared to lose my girlfriend again. we had been together for about a month and then she broke up with me and now about 3 weeks later we are back together. she is being quite awkward with me and wont meet me and i think that i am going to lose her again. we been together for about 3 days and its been really weird, i love her and i think she loves me but dont know. i want to do something special for her and show her how much she means to me. bearing in mind im only 16 what could i do for her. and what shall i do with how she is being. im so scared i will lose her again and i really dont want to. thankyou.

  123. Ronald McDonaldtrump Says:
    May 11th, 2011 at 11:48 pm

    I’m 15 years old, unable to drive, and have beendating a 14 year old for over a year. We just had an argument over something silly and stupid, and I made her really mad. I’m really guilty about it, and I just want this thing forgotten so I can love her like never before. However, when I try to text her and apologize, say I love her, attempt weak humor, the whole shebang, she’ll only reply with “hm” and “ugh” and the like. I truly love her with all my heart, and I want to make up with her, but I can’t seem to convey that love to her. I ended the conversation by saying I’d wait til she was ready to talk, etc., but I am not confident she’ll forgive me. I really need to wait, but I can’t, I’m too ADD and fast-paced to be able to wait long. I know there are hundreds of posts of this question, but what do I do? I can’t go to her house and talk, its complicated, my travel problems.

  124. Annonymous Says:
    May 16th, 2011 at 10:32 pm

    My GF And I had a great thing but a good friend of her is messing thing up. I love this woman but her friend hates me what should i do

  125. Sam Says:
    May 22nd, 2011 at 7:11 am

    Hi guys I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years and bit now and she’s saying we’re going nowhere. The thing is she supported me for almost 2 years because i had nothing at all. I was having trouble finding a job and I stop uni. For the rest of the years we where together I finally manage to get a stable job and I’m going back to uni. Whenever we fight whether im wrong or right she always says ‘dont forget how i supported you and it make me feel so bad. I try to do whatever she tells me, I try to give things that she wants and I try doing other little things just to keep her happy but it seems that its never good enough. When we fight, I sometimes mention some of the things that i do for her but she answered back ‘like what?!’ I know that I’m in debt with her because of the things she has done for me but i just dont know what to do anymore. I try to avoid arguments or fights for that matter and because of that she thinks I’m a wimp. I really dont know what to do any more. She just recently decided that we should break up because our relationship isnt going anywhere. bottom line is, when it come to arguments and i know im right, i still feel so bad because of all the things she has done for me. HELP please :’(

  126. Leo Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    i had this big fight with my girl friend today and all i did was cus out this girl that kept on being a bitch to me and my gf siad that i was an asshole and that she never wanted to see me again i tried everything i need some serious help i love this girl and i just dont want to give her up

  127. hello Says:
    May 28th, 2011 at 9:16 am

    i need help really badly i cannot trust her to go clubbing out in town and i get all paranoid and say to her i bet you cheat on me and your gonna find someone else however when she came back from a leaving school party she wouldnt swear down that she kissed any other guy and it worried me so anyways she eventually swore down and that was that. i feel like if i ask her to swear down for me she will finish me i love her so much i dont think she realises

  128. aha Says:
    June 8th, 2011 at 6:18 pm

    i just split up with my gf and all i ever do is get my self down because i love her and i want her ak but then when a found out aboot 4 days after she had already asked sum1 else out and a usaul am getting my self down because of tht again but a huv told her i luv her and want be with her and tht and she keeps on saying no to me but when i found out about the other boy a felt like i wanted to kill my self but i realised sumthin love mabey easy to find for some people but hard to keep but i just try my best to hingabout with my pals n forget about her for a little while and mabey all u should try the same after all it might help in the long run but i mabey wrong still but all i have to say is good luck to all and i hope u make back up with ur girls if u really love them and settle down together :) :(

  129. Shane Says:
    June 9th, 2011 at 4:46 pm

    I snapped on my chick over text yesterday, cuz she kept textin\buggin me at work cuz she was worried, but i TOLD her already that i need to keep away from my phone sometimes while i am busy at work or it could get me in trouble. I accidentally text her the word “Odd” and that’s it, by accident cuz i wasn’t paying attention while talking to a client at work. and she didn’t understand why i would text that(i didn’t even realize i text this) So when i finally got a chance to text her back about her question “what happened, everything ok” i decided to just be A.D.D. and just change subjects (cuz again i dunno wtf she was talking about with “whats odd”) so then when i am trying to answer her and say that i must have texted on accident, she texted again at that very moment (blowing my phone up with Over-Care) so i was like shit i cant even finish what i was trying to type. So that interrupting text of hers was “did you send me that text by accident” and i just text her “yes” . So then she starts trying to call me out that i was trying to “play it off” and that i need to “pay attention when i text my peeps”.

    THAT is when i snapped. it was a bad combo of thoughts that hit me all at once:
    1) i told her that i cannot keep texting as much cuz i am trying to be careful and not get in trouble at work(we had been warned in a meeting a week ago)
    2) how dare she think that i must have been trying to text somebody else (when i only text her ass)
    3) f-her (=
    4) even if she was worried that i got in trouble, or something bad happened at work, wtf would texting the crap out of my phone do? risk me getting in trouble even more if I’m not careful
    5)I have told her before that i am busy at work and i cant always keep up with her texts
    6)i have dealt with her assumptions before, and it had been about her thinking i was up to no good (like messing with another girl, thought i never have cheated on anybody in this life)
    7) i had asked her also, if i don’t reply to her right away, find something else to do, i will respond later.

    And this is when sent her a text that was mean, but i had thought about saying FU, but i had said that like once before, and this time i wanted to +1 on that and get her attention… I just had to nip this in the butt once and for all, and also vent the BS i have gotten from here lately i guess.
    So i text her “it is hard to text when my (&%*#) is in (insert ex-girl-fling’s name)” and to “stop f-ing texting me so much! blah blah blah.

    I did tell her i was sorry, and that i could have chosen better words, but that basically i was going to tell her FU in some form or fashion no matter what my words were.

    And here she goes, in the “victim” mode like she can never forget what i said. frankly i needed some time away from here, we have been spending every day together, an not getting out enough lately. it kinda feels nice, except when i come home and she has taken over the bedroom and locked me out. I have not been communicating with her like i should, but i have a hard time telling her my feelings when all we do is sit around the house. and i think more clearly on how i feel about her when she is not around, like when we are apart and i cant wait to see her again. oh well , damage is done. I am harsh with her b/c i have been through some abusive relationships, and now i know what i will not tolerate, so when certain things happen, like talking crap to me, i feel like its my time to stand up for myself, and make sure i am clear when i tell her she will not be pushy with me or whatever. but she sees this as i am selfish; like i will only let her do what i want. but its only like 3 things.
    1) i will not talk to you about other girls
    2) don’t talk shit to me just b/c you are afraid
    3)(partly #2 but) any action you make based on jealousy or insecurity- and i learned real quick how insecure she is. but she will never say.GOOD LUCK to all of you! If it has been a dead end road, and your partner is not as crazy as you are, then move on! Also, don’t let ANYBODY kick you when you are already down, they will never change by your hands, possibly someone else’s.

  130. hurt Says:
    June 14th, 2011 at 6:13 pm

    me and my gf just got in a fight and it was two days long and she called me a asshole and i got pissed and spazed out on her but now i feel bad but she wont let me apoligize to her please help me i want everything back to normal pleaseee

  131. Steve Says:
    June 16th, 2011 at 1:53 am

    My Gf and I just got into a big fight because one of my old friends that is a girl that i haven’t spoken to in 5 years texted me once and now accuses me of cheating on her, something i would never do. I’ve complimented her about everything everyday since we started dating and i haven’t texted anyone besides her since then too. what can I do to prove to her that i’m not cheating on her?

  132. yowsa Says:
    June 26th, 2011 at 9:37 pm

    WTF is up with women staying mad for so long after stupid even little arguments? Good lord. I read most of these posts, and it seems like it is stupid stuff there shouldn’t have been an argument about in the first place. I just had an argument with wife. She said there was a car that blocked the road, while she was driving. I mentioned I think I saw the same car and up ahead there is a road block. She said that I got home 15 minutes ago so it couldn’t have been the same car. I said “how do you know that???” maybe they dropped someone else off. So she actually got pissed and said she’s mad I was soooo stupid to think it could be the same car and that I argued how it could be. What a dumb conversation to be upset about. Now she is in bedroom laying down and doesn’t want to speak. I even apologized to get her over it, and said “ya I’m dumb sometimes, sorry honey” and she still won’t talk. F this.

  133. Zane Says:
    June 30th, 2011 at 3:25 pm

    What a crock of BS. This may work for some, In the long run you have lost all respect. not to mention, it will be thrown back in your face. The best advice I can ever share, Is pick you battles. Don’t get caught up in fighting about small stuff. Save it for when it really matters. And if she is that shallow. It is best to move on. So what if you where right, and she was wrong? So you fall to your knees and admit your the one the screwed up? Bull! Your giveing her a free ticket to walk all over you. you might as well cut your balls off. A real man can also admit when he was wrong, Only when he is. So if you follow my advice and pick your battles, you will avoid this High School BS. A relationship is built on respect, If she don’t respect you there is no relationship.

  134. hurt Says:
    July 1st, 2011 at 5:34 pm

    me and my gf broke up now and it sucks!!!!!!!

  135. Nat Says:
    July 24th, 2011 at 2:15 am

    Well. I lied to my girlfriend about talking to this other girl. this is the second time i ruined my trust with her. shes really hard to convince. I know i’ll change. shes my world. Anything you can do to help? I’m going to see her in Delaware (At college) in about, 6 hours. Help.

  136. Jeff Says:
    July 28th, 2011 at 2:43 am

    Nat you wont change… dont lie to yourself!!! the key is gentlemen to be nice and to respect them. show them all the affection in the world. tell them they are beautiful and gorgeous and stunning. when they wake up without there make up on tell them they are more stunning without it on. its not a game. if you have to fake it its not yours to keep. Woman deserve the best, i have a wonderful girl she is a natural bombshell… turns all the guys heads, i dont get mad and say why are you looking at my girl instead gentlemen i push my chest out with pride and know what i have is breath taking. i play a game with her all the time! just like any woman they always think there ugly and this and that well i challenge her and say when we go to the mall we will see how ugly you are and she turns every head we walk past. we bet that the loser of the game buys ice cream (i have not bought yet) im just saying. coming from a 22 year old male 4 years out of high school that never got into all the bs like all of the other guys did, you are more of a man to express yourself then to act like a hard ass and not too. do it yalls way but i guarantee you put some of what i just said into action you will have a different relationship. think of anything, anything that sounds off the wall corney 9 times outta 10 she will laugh and think its cute but shes not laughing at you. the laugh is a good thing. try it and good luck…. cheaters tho you guys are all hopeless.

  137. me Says:
    August 2nd, 2011 at 5:45 am

    Me and my girlfriend have been arguing about the past for 3 days an I’ve been hurt all along but she don’t notice that, we argue over my past and she thinks I love other girls and not her but I tell her everyday I love her and not them and now she’s all blunt, won’t accept my apology an just hurts me constantly but she don’t notice help me please? :’(

  138. Rob Says:
    August 8th, 2011 at 12:25 am

    Just tell her your sorry and touch her cooter..if she doesnt let you. just throw your arm over her and tell her you love her..then let her spoon you!!!!!! works everytime

  139. Sameer Khan Says:
    August 16th, 2011 at 6:37 am

    I broke up with my girl friend 5-months back she is not talking to me i want her back tried every thing but not possible i even tried reaching her through her best friend.
    She dosen’t want to meet me nor is ready to see my face.
    I am helpless and want her back at any cost.
    I am not even given any chance to prove my love for her.

  140. Jason Says:
    August 18th, 2011 at 6:02 am

    I am dating a girl that is younger than me. Her parents do not think highly of me and we have never met before. I have two children and that is also a road block I believe.. I am not financially stable at all. I live at my moms and only get $8 an hour at my job. Am in debt and have so many skills to succeed I just can’t seem to get a good job. No matter where I go in this city!! Anyways we are always happy and we spend as much time together as possible. The other day I dropped her off at her house and went home. Was sitting at home in a great mood and she called me and was asking who theses two girls were on facebook. I defensively told her who they were and that I wanted nothing to do with them and that they are just people I know. She then tells me she filled out an app for the real world and I reply to her and say ” cool” she wants to be an actor and by me being a lil flustered and saying cool she said I don’t ever support her and what she wants to do. In realness I would be a lil nervous if she did get the cast of the real world because of other guys living with her. But I would be happy for her to be on tv and possibly become a starr.. well she ended up hanging up on me and that’s where it started.. I called her back. And we yelled back and forth and we both ended up so so so so angry. I busted a bottle in the sink and drove to her parents house and threatened her that if she didn’t remain to be my girlfriend that I was gonna ring the doorbell and tell her parents that she was seeing me and living to them. At the time I don’t know what I was thinking. I was being a selfish prick trying to like basically blackmail her into being with me. Why am I such a dumb ass.. then I come to my senses and say please just don’t break up with me and give it a few days to think about it. Let’s not make any decisions based off anger.. and the next day I tried to be as nice and loving as I could and a few times said to her . That u dint like the way the conversation was going and that I think its best if we just hang up and talk when we are in a better mood. And then a cluster of words with anger comes out of her and making me feel as if I have not treated her good the entire relationship. And said what have you done as for of an act of love for me lately. And I love her more than anyone I have ever loved in my entire life. She is my everything …and things started getting to me so I said mean things and said I’m fed up and you just lost me cuz I just slipped right through her fingers like I was a king and felt like it was about me. I actually even said can this just be about me cuz my feelings were hurt and I was feeling sorry for my self or something.. I text her and she doesn’t seem to want to work things out. She did tell me that she loves me and that o will always hold that special place in her heart.. it made me feel a lil better. But I feel like I’m dieing without her in my life. I want to erase my Facebook but I keep in touch with my family more often with it. Erased a lot of girls off of it. And I want to get a better job and be able to take her out and buy her things and do more for her.. I’m so sure that she is the one for me and I know it in my heart that I am sorry for handling everything the wrong way . And she says she is sick of hearing sorry.. then I call her and text her while she was at work and she says my phone is dead and that she was in trouble for looking at her phone at work. O said sorry baby.. if I were to know that she was gonna get into an argument with her co worker and boss and quit because of it I would of just waited till she got off work to try and show her that I’m sorry and that I care I feel so bad cuz its basically my fault that she quit her job.. I look back and I know I was wrong so I’ve admitted it and I am sorry so I’ve said it. I have no problem saying my feelings but I always seem to word things wrong and go about things the wrong way I don’t know what to do. I naturally have it in me to go to her in person and the last time we got into a fight I gave her flowers and a card and she just threw them away and never read the card. I don’t even have the gas to drive to her house and no money to buy her anything. How can I show her that I am genuine and that I truly love her and make her feel better.. I don’t want her to think its all about me cuz she has stated that not sure if its cuz I said that the other night. Or if she really thinks its about me and what I want. I mean of course I want her . But I really want her to be happy. I want the best of everything for her. And I am willing to do anything to get her back. I am not very good with putting the story back together and obviously I suck with wording things to keep the story short. I messes up I hurt her feelings . And I care so much about her feelings. How can I fix this . And make her know %100 that I care about what she thinks and feels? How can I get her back? She has told me before to never treating to tell her parents again and I’ve done it and I know its the last time I’m gonna do it. But how can I make her know that I’m not going to.. I bluffed and I got called on it. And I know how much it hurts her now .. I need to know how to tell her that I will never do that again and have her believe me. I really care about this girl more than anything and all I want is to be with her. I have already texted her like 10 things and she is prolly sleeping so I just kept sending her nice things and I hope she doesn’t get mad and wake up angry cuz I blew up her phone with texts.. how can I get her to forgive me . We have all kinds of issues but I constantly handle them the wrong way. I just want to treat her like a woman deserves and love her and I need help from god and anyone that wants to try and help. So I’m on here begging for any good advice. So help me out please.

  141. Sameer Khan Says:
    August 22nd, 2011 at 2:07 am

    Still waiting for your help.
    Pls reply soon.

  142. Anthony Says:
    August 22nd, 2011 at 8:03 am

    Ok I’ve read alot of peoples issues here. I came here looking for an easy way to make up with her. Me being a guy feel ive done nothing wrong What-so-ever. I beleive i dont start the arguments and feel im right majority of the time. In hindsight i know this is not true entirely. I have learnt to control that ‘hot flush feeling’ you get when an argument arises. We all know we say stupid things in the ‘heat of the moment’ so you got to learn to bite your tongue. No two people are alike so you both will manage your ways of dealing with a fight/argument. Me, i like to separate myself and be alone, becasue if i continue to argue I will say some stupid things that 5 minutes later i will regret and she will hold against me for the duratrion of our relationship. My advice is to CONTROL yourself and that urge to have the last word. Im NOT saying take all the blame or apologise consistently until she takes you back. Hell NOOO! That is giving her the feeling that she is right and that you would sink to the levels of apologising even when your are not wrong. Give it time and things will get better. Im currently 4 days into not seeing my girlfriend but i contact her via blackberry, skype (online medias) every day just to say hi and that i love her (because i do) I dont make demands but try to show her that no matter how silly an argument i still love her and have only got eyes for her. This isnt the 1st time or the last time we will have a fight but as we have each fight we learn more about each other and im confident right now that she knows i want to be with her and vice versa. I have no worries that we will get back together. Infact im about to buy a card and a teddy for her. Maybe a rose (just to be cheesy and make her smile). Im making an effort because i love her and she is the one for me. Im not trying to buy her back but after 4 days now, i dont feel angry with her and just want her back with me where she belongs. You guys dont need advice just to follow that gut feeling. Ive read some cases above and really the girls don’t deserve you or vice versa. But if she’s the one you will know what to do.

    Good Luck to you all!

    Anthony

  143. Anthony Says:
    August 22nd, 2011 at 8:11 am

    Sameer… It don’t lool good im afraid. If she dont want to talk or see you she wont.

    depending on what you done to her she may not see you again. If you cheated or beat her up chances are slim my friend. but try sending her a note, present (a reminder of something fun you both enjoyed). dont write saying “baby i love you sooooo much, i miss you, pleeeeease take me back”

  144. Sameer Khan Says:
    August 24th, 2011 at 12:29 am

    Anthony man i havent’t done any of these things nor have i beaten her up nor i have i cheated her.
    Nor ditched her. I don’t know what went wrong all of a sudden.
    Pls revert back soon em very alone with out her.

  145. Raaj Says:
    September 12th, 2011 at 7:24 am

    My girlfriend’s friend was killed by her bf last month..from then onwards she said,now her trust on love relationship and boys had faded..though i didn’t do anything wrong our relationship has turned out to be cold..i love her truly and deeply and tried to convince her alot but still it didn’t work..she has been so pessimistic that she keeps on saying that her mind is totaly messed up and she is totaly blank and feels as if she is turning out to b psycho..even i was and am so messed up with the situation..though she stopped conversation with me i kept on being in touch through phone n messages with her n suggesting n supporting her to be optimistic but she used to say nothing except that she is blank couldnt figure out..its been more than two weeks she has stopped receiving my calls and replying my texts..recently i asked her why she is doing so to me and further asked if she wants to continue the relationship or not?? She replied that she gets too irritated with me..she blamed me that i keep on talking rather than listening to her..she further said that i didn’t even wish to ask what she wanted..though she didn’t notice i was trying to help her to cope with her situations..but still i took all the blame on my side and made an apology and asked for forgiveness and not to repeat that again..after that our communication has totaly halted..she is not picking up my calls and reply my texts..she is ignoring me..meanwhile,there is a guy who works at her office..though she hasn’t paid much attention to him but they r having conversation..as far as i know he likes my girlfriend n trying to approach her…iam sorrounded with lots of problems now and not getting any idea what should i do??i need help please help me..i don’t want to lose her and be heartbroken:’(

  146. Dustin Says:
    September 12th, 2011 at 9:27 pm

    .. i just had a stupid fight literally over nothing i kept fighting for her and kept trying to fix it .. then i read this article which said to back up admit ur wrong completely and tell her your here when shes ready.. well i did just that and she texted me saying she loves me. very nice article and a job well done on my part hah!

  147. Carlos Says:
    September 14th, 2011 at 7:40 pm

    Well today it was our anniversity and because of some reasons i didnt show up and i texted her saying that i couldnt make it but she didnt answer me … :/ , now i feel like crap and she still hasnt talk to me … Idk what to do im trying to find a way to make it up but i cnt find any :(

  148. brendan Says:
    September 16th, 2011 at 10:26 am

    ok so me and my girlfriend broke up last night beacause the other day i was going to go hang out with a friend to drink a little and smoke and she accused me of going to hang out with a girl and that i was going to cheat on her. I continuoulsy told her that i was just going to hang out with a couple guys at his place. all was well until last night she looked at my phone and noticed that i had deleted his messages. Im currently not supposed to be smoking and was attempting to hide that from her, she then accused me that i was talking to a girl not a guy. we got into a fight after that but she made up her mind that i was cheating on her. i told her last night over the phone what was really going on. im not sure if she believes me or not, but im willing to do anything to get her back as i dont want anyone else.

  149. D'wayne Says:
    September 17th, 2011 at 7:48 pm

    well my girlfriend is rather than pissed off at because i have alot of friends on my phone that are girls. one texted me this morning and said something that was just out of the blue i asked my gf if she would tell me if someone tried to do the same this to her would she tell me she said yes …i told her what the girl sent and she just went buck wild and got very upset….i asked her if she trusted me she said i guess….i asked her if she wanted to be bothered with anymore she said i dont care i said ok n she never texted me back ..i no it was stupid but what do i do

  150. Shane Armstrong Says:
    September 29th, 2011 at 11:40 pm

    I have a rather extensive problem that’s been spanning basically since may. Everything was going fine with my girlfriend and I. It was tranquil and everything was going fine until I started to realize that we were getting deeper and deeper in sync with one another. I, not having experienced this before, became afraid and made the biggest mistake, I severed the relationship. Instead of doing what i wanted I let my fear of responsibility dictate my actions and leaving me alone. Now during the period in which we were broken up, we couldn’t really separate so we stayed friends and basically talked as much as we did before when we were dating except without the pda and sexual undertones and all the perks of being together. I wasn’t complaining though because I was surprised that she wanted to speak to me again. But then, *the day* came and I was so mad. My brothers had been giving me a hard time, I had schoolwork i needed to do (at my highschool you have to do summer work), my grandmother stepped over a boundary by calling me a faithless heathen and when my best/ex-girl friend started talking about her problems i just exploded and got into a fight with her. I tore into her making my situation with her even worse and I’m still regretting it to this day. After that I immediately saw what i did wrong and i tried to apologize but this time i went too far. Then began the “dark age” in which i probably would have shown signs of depression if it weren’t for one of my other friends. Around this time, I thought I was getting over her, but then the first day of school started and seeing her, (especially since she got contacts instead of glasses), my “getting over it” charade was blatantly destroyed. Holding myself together, I made it through. Though, what I was not prepared for, was her actually saying hi to me, as if I were just an acquaintance. That one word alone was enough shake my emotional foundations to the core while still giving me hope that it would be alright, but it wasn’t really much of a hi though. Now, I haven’t brought up anything that happened during the summer between us, and we’re talking almost like we used to when we first became friends. Though every now and then i get the feeling from that she really hates my guts. Then five minutes later that contentedness that i enjoyed with her even before we were together is there when I look into her beautiful shining, pale, blue eyes.

  151. lovish Says:
    October 2nd, 2011 at 11:01 am

    my gf gets angry bcoz of ma rash driving n now she want to break up bcoz of dat wat shoud i do?

  152. Paul Says:
    October 5th, 2011 at 5:29 am

    Hi guys i need help, this morning my girlfriend got left behind by two buses while she was going to work! and also lost her purse with important stuff while chasing a train, and she blames me for all this. because i told her i am travelling with someone else and im gonna drop this person in town! the problem is that she, says i quote “Well i don’t want you to call me back what you did today to me was not fair then you call yourself my wallet you don’t tell me straight answers everytime i must decide what u conclude iam really tired of you…you are pissing me off how many times must i tell you gore iam not a mind reader. All the nice things iam doing to you, you can’t see them i cant read your mind iam not jesus or superman…..”. I don’t blame her for being pissed off or very angry at me, and now shes not picking up her phone.

  153. Mozoisunknown Says:
    October 22nd, 2011 at 10:57 am

    ok i had a fight with my gf so i followed these instructions above and what happened is we r back 2gether and better than ever

  154. Anish Says:
    October 23rd, 2011 at 7:35 am

    I had a girl… my only love.. we had a fight n ya mistake was mine i ignored her whn c was crazy abt me. i didnt ever realized tat i gud loose her.. jus didnt expected tat c cud start hating me so quickly. c patched up wit his EX boi. jus in a three days of realation totally broke c patched up wit him. wat was so big deal tat c is n dn ever wanna c me again.. i tried hard 2 get her… i still love her alot lot more thn ang thing else in this world.. hw sud i get her back………. :(
    i love u Ayusha dangol… :*

  155. Ray Says:
    November 15th, 2011 at 8:34 pm

    is it me or do girls get pissed off over the most pathetic things ever :L its fucking annoying

  156. Alice24 Says:
    November 21st, 2011 at 6:01 pm

    i personally have a lot of hormones pumpin through my body…when i get upset everything is against me…whether i get into an argument that is my fault or not it aint me thats wrong! but wheh i calm down after 20 mins or so i look at the situation n think hmm mayeb i could have dealt with that differently. Even when im in the right and my bf is wrong sometimes its ok to apologise for what i done wrong…

    but… i feel like it is me apoogising 90% of the time but only my fault 25% of the time…

  157. Will Says:
    November 26th, 2011 at 7:49 pm

    i said some nasty things bout to my girlfriend like ulgy/whore/fuck etc,kinds which hurt her feelings,i know that hurtful words is very wrong and being in a 2yr long distance relationship by internet,messaging was our connection.need to fix on what hurtful words id typed isnt true and never mean it,need help if can,thanx

  158. Grant Says:
    December 11th, 2011 at 1:09 pm

    I like this girl and i keep saying i like her in so many different ways, but then i went round her best friends and she broke down into tears then we settled down as friends then she said she liked someone else then said she didnt like anyone which got me really confused and it hurt, then i said i just wanna be friends for the time being and she flipped and i really do like her more than a friend just i miss the way we were b4 and i know i havent asked her out yet which i was gunna do but now she seems quite annoyed and even though we are friends i feel different and not right inside and i just miss her and ive said sorry loads but i wanna get her something and im seeing her next week so wat should i say to her face to face? I dont know but im gunna say wat i really think about her which ive ever done through txt which i know is another one of my downfalls

  159. sulan Says:
    December 14th, 2011 at 3:03 am

    my girlfriend is listening to her friends and scared to love and now she is not loving me anymore.i feel so sad and its paining after she leave me and i am lonely now.i need some ideas to make up with her again……….?????????????

  160. Mark Says:
    January 9th, 2012 at 3:35 am

    I know my girl truly loves me but she says that she doesn’t like that I’ve been lying to her in the lie was so petty in then again she stays with me. In she says she can’t stay with me now because she don’t wanna be lied to nor living one, It’s not that I’m cheating on her cuz I truly don’t want no other in so I say this is all my fault in I’m wrong for sayin Wat I lied about cuz I Love The Heck Out of her…

  161. Shaba Says:
    January 18th, 2012 at 11:04 am

    I n my gf was truly in love then when she working I keep on texting her then she fed up n broke up I need to meet her so Tt problem wil solve…..she is ignoring I don’t knw hw to meet can somebody help

  162. kieron Says:
    January 22nd, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    i have recently just fell out with the girl od my dreams am worried that i will lose her and i dont want that to happen a bunch of my friends have bin telling me walk away before i get more hurt but i want to stand and fight for her back , i just could do with some advice please

  163. Chris U Says:
    January 23rd, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    I got in a fight with my girlfriend last week. I decided to go surprise her one night after she got out of the gym. On my way to her, I ran into her ex bf. When I saw him I was just filled with pain and anger.

    A little background: this is our 2nd try in this relationship, bc the first time around she cheated on me with her ex. I was so hurt, bc it went on for a while b4 I found out. But I never confronted her about it, she ended up telling me everything the day we got back together. I forgave her and it’s been a year and I practically trust her completely again. I know she wouldnt cheat on me.

    Ok so when I ran into this guy,who lives in the same town her gym is in i was just fille with pain and anger. Bc I just wanted to kick his ass. I knew she wasn’t with him or anything, so I didn’t suspect anything. It was just my first time seeing this guy ever so I just didn’t know what to do. When I ended up meeting w my girl she knew something was wrong w me. I didn’t want to talk so I asked her about her day and what not. I DID notice I was asking too many questions and so I shut up and hugged her. She knew right away something was wrong, and I told her to let me calm down and I’ll tell her. After a few min I told her that I ran into her ex. And that this wasnt me accusing her of anything but I just wanted to let her know that’s why I was feeling sad and a little weird. We ended up having this huge fight where she said he felt interrogated and hurt bc it felt like I didn’t trust her. She was crying So much and I felt guilty. I told her I did trust her and I knew that she wasn’t with him. But she was still upset w me. After I apologized many times about it I said what can I do to make it better. She said “nothing, just give me some time”

    I saw her a couple days ago and we talked. She said she forgives me. And that I didn’t lose her or anything and that she loves me. But she doesn’t talk to me like she used to and I mentioned that to her and she said to give it time and that “we’re gonna be fine, jut give me some time”. I dunno what to do. I’m scared she’s rethinking us or something. Help!

  164. im asshole !!! Says:
    January 29th, 2012 at 7:51 am

    i fought with my girlfriend since 3 days….
    i told her to stop loving me…..!!! she didn’t listen to me…she keep asking why ?? i told her im not good enough for her…..i always make her sad….!!! what should i do ?? i really dont know what to do…i know this sound stupid but hell yeah,,it’s not…..!!!! i said sorry to her many times but i did the same thing again !!
    somebody pls help me…..pls :(

  165. Michael Says:
    February 8th, 2012 at 3:58 pm

    HI MY NAME IS MICHAEL AND ME AND MY FIANCE HAVE HAD OUR DIFFERENCES…WE GOT INTO MULTIPLE FIGHTS JUST AFTER I GOT LAID OFF FROM WORK…ONE DAY SHE STARTED PUNCHING ME AND SLAPPING ME AND I FINALLY GOT FED UP WITH IT AND PUSHED HER THIS HAPPENED A COUPLE TIMES AND SHE TOOK IT TO THE EXTREME…ITS BEEN A MONTH NOW THAT WE HAVE BEEN SPLIT UP BUT WE STILL LIVE UNDER THE SAME ROOF…I HAVENT TRIED THIS WAY JUST YET BUT IM GOING TO TRY IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS…I FOR ONE AM IN LOVE WITH HER AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH HER…I UNDERSTAND I MADE THE MISTAKES BY LAYING MY HANDS ON HER IN ANYWAY EVEN THOUGH IT WAS A PUSH BUT WHAT ELSE CAN I DO?

  166. Michael Says:
    February 8th, 2012 at 4:00 pm

    OH I FORGOT TO MENTION SHE IS PREGNANT ALSO…I KNOW EMOTIONS FLY WHILE BEING PREGGO BUT WHAT CAN I DO TO SHOW HER HOW SORRY I AM AND THAT I WONT DO IT AGAIN?

  167. karan Says:
    February 10th, 2012 at 3:56 pm

    i got a very big fight with my girlfriend only because she is not listen to me wht i said to her.my poroblem is that i love her very much.whenever i stop her don’t to do that thing she always do tht thing so, you tell me what will i do.At last i decided that i will never stop her for any thing.Now she is very guilty of her mistake but now it’s to late i and will not except her apology because she hurt me for a very long time.now i am left her foreever and ever and ever… bye meri jaan apna dhan rakhna me ja rhaa hun tume hamesha ke liye chodhke.bye.

  168. Whocares Says:
    February 19th, 2012 at 5:19 pm

    who cares? leave. there’ll be a better one out there. love is just a made up thing anyway. so good luck. i bet the girl you “love” will trample over you hundreds of times and you still won’t have the balls to leave. Even though you know it is whats best.

  169. austin Says:
    February 27th, 2012 at 1:53 am

    Alright so i really like this girl and wewere bout to go out but we kissed and she told me not to.tell any one but i did because i felt like i was getting mixed messages about how she felt so i asked a couple friends for some advice and she found out.

  170. Israel Says:
    March 6th, 2012 at 8:37 pm

    i got in a fight with my gf an i called her a bitch and i wasnt tinkin. when i come home i find that my facebook has a message sayin that we are over. i told her that one word cant destroy somethin between us, but she still doesnt listen, she tells me to learn how to let go but i cant i love her, an she knows it, dont yall tink that one word just one word can change thousnad of words ive said to her that she appreciated, i dont think so.

  171. siddharth Says:
    March 16th, 2012 at 6:40 am

    we are got fight a funny fight and they at last she got hurt from my copy and she wrote “all is over”
    i reply it one or two can’t destroy our love
    i love her and she also knows
    how can i say “i am sorry”

  172. Chase Says:
    March 30th, 2012 at 11:08 am

    My gf hasn’t been acting her self for the past week, so I just tryed to wait it out I thought thaT IT WAS THAT TIME OF THE MOUNTH, but one morning she was just fine she kissed me before class and the at lunch.One of her exs had pissed me off and I was ready to fight so I had to get up and leave. The rest of the day she wouldn’t talk to me. Help Me Some One

  173. muslim Says:
    April 1st, 2012 at 10:19 pm

    Okay all of u on here are just stupid. When u get in a fight with your girlfriend just stop being a ass and just say “I’m sorry did I just hurt you? I really didn’t mean it. What did I excactly do to make you upset so I won’t do it again. Please don’t be mad we make mistakes so we can learn from them.” I just say that and variations of that to get my gurl Cassandra Dabbs to forgive me.

  174. Michael Says:
    April 13th, 2012 at 9:10 pm

    Hey I’m sorry for getting mad at you I shouldn’t have been an ass to you. Your my everything babe I love you. If I lost you i don’t know what I would do with my life. So I’m saying sorry about that :( plz forgive me and accept my Apology..

  175. kray koster Says:
    April 26th, 2012 at 7:29 pm

    hello, umm im in a huge dilemma….. to start my girlfriend and i broke up for a month due to me and i understand it completely, so what did i do i went and had sex with a girl thinking it was fine… later that next month my x girlfriend calls me and says she wants to try and work stuff out but she tells me i need to tell the truth. i agreed but i asked what are we then and she said just friends. and also we can do whatever we want. so we BOTH agreed on terms. couple weeks pass of only me pursuing her but i felt she had nothing toward me she never called never texted back… so i waited another week waiting for her to contact me for once.. never came… so i went and had sex with that girl again.. then i get a call for my x girlfriend and i tell her the truth on what happened and everything and she said she did the same thing on the same day as well.. so we both were ok and everything and i told her about me not feeling anything and she agreed.. so we then became supper close texting calling morning afternoon night and it was great.. then last night she calls me and she asks if i had sex with that girl more then once.. and i told her the truth that yes i did.. but she now is extremely pissed off and her mom texts me these exact words ” if you cant be the man she needs you to be, leave her alone! Do the right thing. she needs someone who lovers her not someone that makes her cry” So i replied “so i should have lied to her? because i promised her i would lie” and her mom replies back ” you know what she expected from you.you know that she believed that girl was just some random girl and a one time thing. you also know that she planned to be with you forever. you can manipulate, lie, twist the truth but you know this was something you should have told her. (i can hear you saying FU) HA!” i love this girl with all my heart.. and im not just saying that….. and i didnt even tell my X how many times i just said i had sex with this girl… idk whos wrong or right but i feel that when your single i didnt think it mattered.. but when we got close i did what she asked and look where that got me… lost with nothing…..

  176. sarah Says:
    May 3rd, 2012 at 3:26 pm

    YOU R RIGHT TO HAVE TOLD HER THE TRUTH WHAT YOU SHOULD DO I GO TO HER HOUSE AND BEG ON YOUR KNEES
    FOREEVER SAY I WILL DO ANYTHING JUST TO NOT LET YOU GO
    PS I AM A CHRISTAIAN AND I THINK YOU SHOULDENT HAVE HAD SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE

  177. bradley renski Says:
    June 8th, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    i had a fight with her and my fried said i should be dating som1 else and all this stuff that she was beter and deep down i love her when i rlly love my girlfriend and she wont trust me and weve made up and forgot about it befor but this time we r sad and it wont be the same now what????

  178. David Says:
    November 21st, 2012 at 11:02 pm

    hi, i and me girl had this argument 2 nights ago because i ran late picking her from work. i apologised, she then said she did not want to talk to me. I left her and played xbox in the lounge. Next thing she begins to do things to annoy me, i begged her to not let the situation burst outta proportion. Well today we still arguing, and i did the most stupid thing, i pushed and yelled so loud at her, now i haven’t done that before to her, p.s i have major anger issues, so now she is said its over and that the only way i can get her back is to ensure her that i have no anger problems, and she is not taking me word for it, she wants it confirmed by my gp. btw even if i done this, she says there’s a greater chance she won’t accept me. i enrolled with a therapist online, what can i do, i really love her, i am sure not to do that again, what can i do to preserve it?

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