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How to Get Her Trust Back - 3 Rules That Should Never Be Broken

By Dr. George Karanastasis

How to Get Her Trust BackLosing a girl’s trust will often lead to a breakup. And the only way to patch things up is to gain that trust back.

Unfortunately, it’s not an easy task. Nevertheless, it’s a necessary step to repairing a relationship.

With that said, this post will point out 3 rules that should never be broken if you hope to succeed…

Rule #1: Trust must be earned. You can’t pressure or persuade a girl to trust you again. She has to make that decision on her own. And for this to occur, one thing has to come first: change.

You have to change that which caused her to stop trusting you. This takes time. However, you can move things along a tad bit quicker. Here’s how…

Write down everything you plan to do on paper and give it to her. Why paper? Because of these two reasons:

1.  Promises are made, forgotten, and broken all the time. She knows this. But this makes you accountable to her. And accountability is the first step towards regaining her trust.

2. You can’t persuade her to trust you but your written plan can. If you were to tell her, repeatedly, that you changed, she’d get turned off and wouldn’t give you a second chance. However, you written plan can do this time and time again without turning her off.

Rule #2: Trust can never be “tricked”. Do not make drastic changes fast. If you go from being the worst guy in the world to the best (from one day to the next) she’ll see through the ploy. She knows that the moment she eases up on you, you’ll revert to your old ways. Make slow and steady changes she can believe you’ll stick to.

Rule #3: Trust must never be broken - twice. You’ve been given a second chance because of a promise - a promise she believes you’ll keep. Don’t make the same mistake again. Whatever it is you plan to do - get it done. Second chances are hard to come by - third are non-existent.

By sticking to these rules you’ll be in a good position to get her trust back. But don’t forget them once you have it. Remember, it’s hard to re-gain but easy to lose again.

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4 Responses to “How to Get Her Trust Back - 3 Rules That Should Never Be Broken”

  1. Seth Says:
    November 30th, 2009 at 3:27 am

    George, I was with my girl for over a year, and things went perfectly until about the month surrounding our anniversary. Not long after it, she dumped me and said she wasn’t happy anymore, and that she was still attracted to me, but not as much as before. I begged and pleaded, and it took almost a month to collect myself, but I’ve had minimal contact with her and now she’s getting involved with another guy that I honestly can’t compete with. We’ve made up, I’ve accepted that leaving me was the right thing for her to do, and she knows that. When we talk the conversation is very cold now, and she won’t be able to talk at all for the next 2 weeks to anyone. A few days after that ends, we’ll see each other for the 3rd time since the breakup. The first 2 times went okay, but I was at a loss for what to do to get her back. We were both friendly and everything, but I was at a loss. Do you have any advice for me? Do you think this 2 weeks will help or hurt my chances?

  2. Johan Says:
    August 22nd, 2010 at 6:10 am

    hi me and my girlfriend have dated now for about a year and 2months we have fought alot of times but keep on going back to each other.We broke up a few times aswell because of alchol,i would go out drinking and then we would fight now this has happend about 8 times we broke up because i was drunk and we fight about stupid things i have made so many promises already and dont want to loose this girl i know what to do i just have to stop drinking and its not that i drink everyday its maybe once or twice in 3 to 4 months that this happens,what advise is there for this problem,i have tried everything in my power to make up and show how sorry i am and showing that i really mean it,she still talks about me everyday and excepted some flowers and a i am sorry gift,i also heard from one of her friends that she feels bad for treating me so badly because she is made and ignoring me……Help???

  3. jools Says:
    September 1st, 2010 at 9:25 pm

    Hello Dr… Something like a year ago I started dating this girl because she showed interest in me and always text message me and kept contact with me. Few months later she told me very frequently that she was in love with me. At first, I acted distant but then I chose to give us an opportunity, and over time I fell in love with this girl. It seemed that the love was strong and mutual. Due to college, we felt apart and at first she still contacted me, but then stopped and I started to wonder what was the reason for this. I text messaged her frequently and wrote her an e-mail every single day since the last message she wrote me (telling me that she missed me, by the way, after these ten days of e-mails and text messages per day, she finnally answered saying that I should not write her anymore, that my messages annoyed her and If I really felt something for her, I will leave her alone. then she wrote another letter saying she do this for her, and that she will be fine and I will be fine to… and now she is dating somebody else, and knows that she is falling in love with him. It´s like all she told me was a big lie, like she forgot me entirely in such a short time, but sometimes I think I just pushed her away acting like the worst of the wussies. It´s been exactly a month since she wrote me that e-mail. Again, because of college, I´m seeing her again in 20 days, we are even going to take a class together; the guys that she is seeing it´s acroos the street were we study, (so I suppouse I´m gonna see her someday skipping classes to see him) and I still feel something very strong for her (I LOVE HER), and I feel like i´m falling into depression very quickly… My question is: I think she felt something really strong for me. Is there ANY, even remote chance to win her back again, after all of this happened? I win, when I though I was loosing her before, I always managed to re-sparkle the attraction in her over me, but I never loosed my coolness before, and NEVER before felt this destroyed and overwhelmed by this emotions.
    I don´t know if I can handle not to see that “in love” look that she gave me when I saw her before… I told her that I loved her, but I really feel it now. I know it´s love, and I know I would let her go is she is happy, but I wanna fight for her. She is the love of my life… Do I still have a chance?
    Jools

  4. Roniel Says:
    March 9th, 2012 at 5:49 am

    Heyy my girlfriend and I were together for 2 years and we had problems here and there as normal but just a short time after our 2 year anniversary everything changed drastically, she said something broke inside her about the way she felt for me, in the past everything thats happened I have always managed to put us back together, get things normalish. Now though its hopeless she doesnt long for me at all exactly a week had passed since she last went out on a date with me and was kissing me, before she was hooking up with the guy thats always liked her since school days and now they are together, its been 2 months I have had to watch this happen and it doesnt get any easier, I watch her slip further away from me. I know she loved me beyond any experience I could ever have in a another relationship, simply put every other girl will be second best, she did things that really showed she cared for me alot, she kept a book where she would write about me, and draw pictures of us together. She threw it in my face 6 months before we broke up after we had a very bad fight while I was massively intoxicated on alcohol, it signified the beginning of the end, since then things spiralled downwards, I was fully able to tell she was trying to detach herself from me. I dont wanto lose this girl, I simply cant see myself with anyone else in my whole life, she was more then I wanted since day one, brought a happiness and spark into my life, far beyond what I was aware is possible, the memories and experiences are unforgettable and simply nothing could compare. I never exactly treated her how I should have during our entire relationship, there were many things she was unhappy about, lack of communication on my behalf, me always being busy and not being able to see each other as often as she’d like too. She told me she truly didnt feel I loved her, and she thought I would be happy single. Since we broke up I have changed, the pain felt from it, is enough to realise what you really had, I call and text her everyday, barely receiving a reply or answer to my calls, I do whatever it is I can to show there is change, She still cares somewhere deep down, even while she sees her new boyfriend when she sees me she holds my hand in the moment, she even cuddled with me, but as time goes on the passion dissipates, I cant feel her longing for me anymore. I have been so empathetic to think through my wrongs and put myself in her shoes to feel how she does and I truly understand why she did everything that she did, she left me for this other guy because he isnt capable of hurting her feelings as for I was, he has had it in for her for a long time, so no chance he is gonna screw up, and I seen a guy who gets his chance like this before and he could end up with her for life, she simply feels safe with him, she is in safe mode. She looks at me and sees that I will just hurt her more and more, but I know I am able to fix her heart, and make her happy, I know we can live the rest of our lives together wonderfully, I can be the man she wants me to be, and its not for her its for me, its no burden or effort to me for this change. I have been so caring and affectionate for 2months to her but she still is unable to trust me, I do not know what it is that I must do for her to simply just accept and see that I am very different, at least to give me a small chance to let me in a bit more into her life, but while she still talks to me, it is so minimal, the distance between us is immense and painful to see when you look back and see just how close we were. I know she cant let another guy in like she did with me, just like I can never let another girl into my life anywhere near like how I did with her. If I could get her back I would take my one chance and tip-toe around to never screw up and go far out of my way each and everyday to show her I love her and she is my world. I know what I must do, but I do not know how to show her this is no ploy I really do care and I really do feel for her, I dont know how to show her Im not gonna hurt her ever again, If she could just let me in I could fix it all, I know this. Any light you can shed on this would help alot, Thanks

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