By Dr. George Karanastasis
So, she’s broken it off and you don’t know how to get her back. Perhaps you’ve already tried, yet failed; or maybe you’re just getting started and want to avoid mistakes. Whatever the case may be these five facts will instantly put you on the right path, whether you’re a relationship rookie or a seasoned veteran of the art.
Fact #1: It won’t happen overnight.
Some guys get her back within a week, some in a month. It all depends on the relationship in question and the underlying circumstances that tore it apart. And while you can’t know exactly how long it will take you to get her back, this shouldn’t concern you in the least. Instead, rest easy in the comfort of knowing that if you take the right approach and avoid critical mistakes that time will ultimately reward you.
Fact #2: There’s no room for sorrow when it comes to getting her back.
I know that this breakup is tough and you’re hurting all over but you must maintain your composure. Do whatever it takes to stop feeling sad and to start feeling happy. Take up a new hobby or spend some more time with your friends. Because if you can’t be happy when you’re alone then you don’t stand a chance of being so with someone else.
Additionally, the last thing your ex wants is to be around someone that brings her down. Always keep this in mind: she’s also going through a tough time (even if she doesn’t show it) and she’s also looking for someone to cheer her up. So be that one person in her life that makes her smile.
Fact #3: You can’t persuade her to come back.
Many have taken this approach and even more have failed. And since you’re reading this article it’s safe to assume that you too have tread down this path. So heed my word of warning: stop what you’re doing now! The only thing you can hope to accomplish with persuasion is to push her further away.
And this makes total sense if you take a moment to think about what she ultimately wants: space. So do your due diligence and give it to her, and in turn she’ll reward you several fold in the very near future.
Fact #4: You can not buy your way back into her heart.
A classic mistake that most guys make when trying to get her back is to shower her with flowers, apology cards, and various other gifts. And that’s because they somehow believe that these gestures, gestures that girls normally adore when they’re happy in a relationship, will have the same effect during a breakup as well.
But nothing could be further from the truth. The only thing that excessive gift giving accomplishes is to push her further away. This goes hand in hand with fact #3. She’ll take this is a sly form of persuasion and it will literally backfire. So save your money for something more useful (perhaps a great getaway for the both of you when you when she finally does come back).
Fact #5: All relationships are not created equal.
Understand that every relationship is different and therefore each one requires a unique approach. You can’t expect to ask someone how to get her back, do exactly what they did, and expect the same level success with your relationship. It will take a good deal of analyzing on your part so that you can pinpoint the factors that lead to the breakup to begin with. Only then can you craft your own plan of getting her back by “reverse-engineering” the relationship and every mistake that led to it falling apart.
In conclusion, while the topic of relationship repair and how to get her back needs several more articles (even books) to fully be covered, these are the five most important facts you should be aware of when you’re just getting started.
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