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Guy Dumps Cheating Girlfriend On Live Radio
By Dr. George Karanastasis | February 28, 2010
Here’s the story of Chris and Ashley. In a nutshell, they’ve been dating for about 5 years. She’s expecting him to propose. Why? Because she happened to find a ring while going through his stuff (they live together by the way). But… she gets an unexpected suprise - on live radio - when Chris calls her out for cheating…
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So, after listening what do you think? Was he too harsh on her? Let your voice be heard by commenting below…
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March 2nd, 2010 at 10:15 am
Dear Dr. George Karanastasis,
hi there! i wonder if you could give me advice on what to do regarding my ex gf.
we broke up 3 days ago for the 2nd time around. for her, she wants us to be just friends so we’d have no fights and no more problems and she thinks its the best for us. but for me, its not. she broke up with me over the phone and she only thought about the idea of doing it in the afternoon. she borke up with me on the night of that day on the phone.
the day after it, she texted me. asking me how i am and telling me that she cooked something that day. our text messaging lasted for only 5 text exchange. and then the day after it, she again texted me “goodnight” and i replied with a smiley like this “:)”. she replied asked why i am still awake and she asked why is it a different smiley (as i always use the letter u with two dots above it smiley when we were together) and if is it really me? and now is the third day. and she replied to a post to my facebook, its about something expensive i got for free and i was really, really happy about it. she replied “congrats”.
after all, i never contacted her after the break up. why is it she does those things? please help me read whats in the situation. thanks you!
March 4th, 2010 at 2:52 pm
Hey Duke,
This is quite typical after a breakup. There are two things that could be going on here:
1) She’s not ready to completely cut you out of her life (hence the reason she keeps contacting you).
2) She’s not serious about the breakup. It could be her way of gauging how things go between the two of you during this period before she makes her final decision.
Regardless of the reason, it’s not a good idea to continue this pattern. Why? Because more likely than not you’ll end up getting hurt.
If she keeps you close by just to “cushion her fall” then the moment she stops feeling the need for that cushion, she’ll become more and more distant. On the other hand, you’ll most likely be getting your hopes up - and even becoming more attached to her - and will feel even worse once she really starts to become distant.
You have to figure out if this breakup truly is serious or if it is the second situation I’ve written above.
If she is just testing the waters to see how you guys will do in the future, put things out in the open and attempt to solve your differences. If not, then cut her off politely and start the healing (and possible reunion) process.
You can learn more about how to identify and go about this in my book, How to Get Her Back for Good.
Best of luck to you,
Dr. K
March 11th, 2010 at 7:42 am
hi Dr. K,
thank you for your reply. i appreciate it that much. the past few days, she was the always one who talks to me first. i never initiate any contact. we talk like how we used to when we were just friends..
sometimes when theres this dead air when we text or chat, she opens up another topic to talk about to continue a conversation. the truth is, i wanted to win her back.
here’s what she said why she wanted us to break up: she wanted me to grow, she has personal problems and she wanted us to stay friends as of now and fix things because if we are in a relationship there are a lot of complications. she said that she loves me too so much and if its us, then it is us. if not, then not but she is not losing hope in it.
what i am doing now, is i only let her come to me. if she texts, i reply in a caring and friendly tone and i always sound cheerful. can you tell that how she contacts me is that she is testing the waters? i really want to win her back, am i doing the right thing? giving just enough distance? hope to hear from you again Dr. K.
June 3rd, 2010 at 4:04 am
that’s a little too harsh. yeah. she cheated. that’s not alright. but on live radio…? really chris?