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Do You Really Want Her Back or Is It Just Rejection?

By Dr. George Karanastasis

Do You Really Want Her Back?Whenever we lose something, it’s natural to want it back. Breakups are a perfect example of this. But here’s a question to consider…

What are we actually pursuing: the girl or just our ego? It’s a very important point (especially if the answer is the latter).

In all fairness, one can never truly know before getting back together. Judgment is impaired by emotion. In fact, many men realize this only after the fact when they’re finally thinking clearer.

However, you can (and should) get a better idea while you’re still broken up. Because if it’s your ego, not only will this free you to focus energy on something more productive… but it will save you a whole lot of heartache in the process.

With that said, answering these 3 questions will help you decide…

1. How did you feel about this girl immediately before the breakup?

Where you bored with the relationship? Perhaps considering other options? This is not uncommon. Just like girls, many guys will stick with their partner out of convenience until someone “better” comes along. But when she ends things first, he instantly wants her back. But it’s his ego he’s really after… not the girl.

The complete opposite case is a situation such as cheating. Perhaps you messed up one night. You weren’t looking for anyone new but she still fell in your lap. One thing led to another and now you’ve lost your girl. In all probability, it’s her you want back - not just your ego.

2. How do you feel about her being with someone else?

Now, I don’t expect anyone to say “fine” to this question. It hurts like hell. But take some time to really think about it. What are the exact emotions this thought brings out of you (jealousy, resentment, sorrow, loneliness)?

Again, take a moment to examine your feelings. Better yet, write them all down. When you’re done, proceed to the final question to find out why…

3. Why do you feel that way about the above?

Here’s why I asked you to really think about the previous question: you want to discover exactly why the thought of her being with someone else makes you feel the way you do.

That “why” will guide your decision as to whether to put the relationship behind you or seek for a second chance.

Now, if you’re feeling jealous - that’s normal. But if that’s it, then it’s possible that your ego is the only thing you’re after - not the girl. The same goes for loneliness. How would you feel if you had something else right now? See the point I’m trying to make?

However, if you can honestly throw sorrow into that mix then it’s a different story. Are you sorry that you lost such a wonderful person — someone who “completes and complements” you — and feel like you can’t “replace” them? If that’s the case then getting her back is the right move.

Again, these questions (and your answers) are merely a rough guide. They’re meant to steer you in the right direction: move on or attempt to get her back. But ultimately, it’s up to you to decide.

If it’s the former, the best way to start is by meeting some new girls. Nothing builds confidence faster than the admiration of other women. And if you’re a little reluctant because you’ve been out of the game for so long, use the internet. It’s a great way to get in touch with others without the restrictions of the real world. Here’s an excellent guide to get your started.

However, if you truly believe that this is the girl for you and you’ll give anything to have her back, then click here and get this report. It will put you on the right path towards accomplishing your goal.

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5 Responses to “Do You Really Want Her Back or Is It Just Rejection?”

  1. JustAGuy Says:
    June 14th, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    hmm… nope, thought it through. I love her and wouldn’t have her any other way. I wish desperately to be the one who can make her happy, but if I can’t I hope she finds what she’s looking for. Fuck my ego.

  2. jhay Says:
    September 6th, 2010 at 12:36 am

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me cus I cheated on her, I found this great website called saveabreakup.com , I followed all the instructions on it and it helped me get back with my ex, now we’ve been together for almost 2 years. :)

  3. ethan Says:
    November 26th, 2010 at 12:13 pm

    Ive been split up with my ex for a few months now and we have been hooking up still telling each other how much we love one another. I am very much in love with her. See she is my first love we been together 7+ years. I have had a real hard time coping with our separation. She feels like she missing out on the dating scene we started out young. It my bday in a month. I want to finally truly propose to her on that day. Im nervous and afraid but I have found that I truly cant live wo her. She means so much to me. I am not saying I was an angel during our time together but now that she has pushed me away I m kind of lost.

  4. Eric Sorensen Says:
    December 2nd, 2010 at 1:58 am

    This article or whatever it is has opened my eyes so much to the truth of this break up.. There were so many times before we broke that i was so bored with the relationship and knew that it was not going to go anywhere. but i continued on with her out of convenience and because i didn’t want to feel heart broken. However, i defiantly did fall in love with her.. So when the break up came i was ok with it only for a short time.. and i am more concerned about who she is with and if she is dating someone, and if my mind is occupied all day with the thought of her, it is mostly composed of thoughts about her and someone else, not actually the memory of her..

  5. Eric Sorensen Says:
    December 2nd, 2010 at 2:01 am

    not to say that i dont miss and think about her all the time cause i do.. but i just find my self so confused sometimes, because i love her so much but i dont want to be with her anymore.. why do i feel heart break so bad if i dont even want to be with her ?? it just doesnt make sense until i read this article describing that its probably my pride and ego that is hurting more than anything.. but its all mixed in with how much i truly love her.. its hard to express how i really feel becuase its not right with her.. but the memory of her being in my life stings so much sometimes..

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