By Dr. George Karanastasis
There’s not a single breakup reason that gives a guy comfort when his girl calls it quits, however, there are certainly some that he can “stomach” more than others.
For example, if the relationship ends because she moves cross country… it’s something he can live with. On the other hand, if she leaves him because she met someone else… then that’s a different story altogether.
The reason I decided to post this today was because one of the Makeup Board members pointed out an article he discovered at SoSuave.com. This article is a great example of what I tell my readers when they ask me, “Can I get her back if she’s left me for someone else?” And if you’re going through a breakup because your girl left you for another then I encourage you to read it first so you’ll better understand where I’m coming from.
Back already? Good, then let’s press on…
Getting a girl back when she’s dating someone else is not an impossible feat. However, you definitely have your work cut out for you. Why? Because not only did she reject you… she replaced you altogether! So the likelihood of making the mistakes that push her further away becomes that much greater.
But don’t let this discourage you. With a little self-control you can overcome this handicap and drastically improve your chances of success. How?
Well for starters you must resist all urges to “bad-mouth” this guy to your ex. Whatever you tell her she’ll take with a grain of salt and if you think about it, it’s completely logical: you are his competition after all. You should wish them both the best and then leave it be.
Next, you should concentrate on your strengths while eliminating your weaknesses. For example, the fact that you have a history with her is a strength. She won’t forget about you no matter how much she enjoys this guy’s company. And that’s because you share a bond with her that takes time to be broken - a bond that he’s yet develop.
However, jealousy is a serious handicap. And if you allow this feeling of jealousy to take over your logical though process you’ll begin to act in ways that will push her further away from you and ultimately closer to him.
What you must understand is that she’s comparing you to your “rival” on a daily basis. And while he may seem to be the perfect guy to begin with, he’ll mess up sooner than later. That’s where that self-control comes in. Because if you’ve managed to be a “good boy” throughout this, over time that comparison will become striking… but in your favor.
Then it’s only a matter of time before your strengths overpower his while his weaknesses become more pronounced. And then my friend, the tables will begin to turn in a way you never imagined. So do whatever it takes to keep your composure. You can get her back is she’s dating someone else. You just need to work harder.
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