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6 Signs You’re Finally Over Your Ex Girlfriend
By Dr. George Karanastasis | March 24, 2008
Breakups have a way of taking your world and turning it upside-down. At first the pain is unbearable, the emotions overwhelming… and it seems as if nothing can make things right.
But time heals all wounds - and breakups are no exceptions to this. And while the process is gradual, you don’t realize that you’re slowly getting better until the worst has come to pass… as if someone flipped a switch and made the pain go away.
It’s at this point that you take notice to the fact you’ve made great headway in getting over your ex girlfriend - and here are 6 specific signs that validate this conclusion…
Sign #1: You’re no longer checking your voicemail 30 times a day in hopes that she called…
Every message you receive makes your heart beat a little faster when you’re going through a breakup. You’re hoping (even praying) that it’s her… that she was thinking of you and called to see how you’re doing.
You find yourself stuck in a destructive pattern of repeatedly checking your messages/Emails for some “proof of life”. And when you come up empty handed it deals a serious blow to your already fragile state.
Eventually, however, you not only stop waiting for her to call… you also stop caring that she doesn’t… And when you have a new voicemail (or Email), you’re not rushing to see who it’s from…
Sign #2: You go through the entire day without thinking of her…
At first, she constantly held the center stage in your thoughts. It seemed like everywhere you went, everything you talked about, and everything you saw reminded you of your ex girlfriend.
But this slowly started to fade until one night you realized that the whole day has passed without her entering your thoughts. A true sign of better days to come…
Sign #3: You stop “connecting” with the words of every sad song you happen to hear…
Isn’t odd how freakishly “spot on” the lyrics of a sad song are in depicting your situation when you’re going through a breakup? It’s as if the singer wrote the words down just for you.
And this causes you to play these sad songs over and over and over (personally, I spun the hell out of my Goo Goo Dolls CDs when dealing with my own relationship mishaps).
But this too comes to pass as you start substituting cheery beats for cheese love songs in your iPod shuffle. Then the day comes when you’re no longer convinced that every sad song was written with you in mind…
Sign #4: Your appetite comes back with a vengeance…
When the girl goes she usually takes your appetite with her… Everything seems “hard to swallow” when you’re feeling lovesick and food is no exception… In fact, a breakup can be quite the miracle diet for shedding those few extra pounds you’ve put on throughout your relationship.
However, sooner than later your appetite bounces back and you find a whole new taste for the foods you once enjoyed (plus your mom’s no longer worried that you might starve yourself to death).
And once your internal physiology has regained its balance - you proceed to take care of your external appearance…
Sign #5: Looking your best is no longer a burden…
Right after a breakup (and in the weeks that pass) rolling out of bed in the morning is hard enough in itself… let alone looking good. Your external appearance closely mirrors what you’re feeling within: distraught and disheveled.
But as the days roll on you start taking pride in the way you look and dressing your best is no longer an afterthought… it’s a priority… You’re finally starting to feel good about yourself, inside AND out.
And finally…
Sign #6: You start (really) taking notice of the opposite sex…
It seems as if every girl you come across when you’re in the midst of a breakup is in some way “inferior” to your ex (even if she’s strikingly more attractive and fun to be with). You just can’t seem to “connect” with her as you did with your girlfriend.
And then one day, she walks in… and it is at this moment that you realize that there really are other fish in the sea… even some that you’d like to get to know better… heck, even on a long-term basis.
When this happens you absolutely know that the worst is behind you and you can safely say that you’re finally over your ex girlfriend. Ironically, it’s at this point that your chances of getting her back are the best. In fact, don’t be too surprised if she decides to call you during these days.
It’s kind of funny how things tend to work out… Actually, it’s rather cruel - but so is life my friend…
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